So, my boyfriend is the man-of-honor at his best friend's upcoming wedding in April. Being from Miami, he is traveling to Miami to host the bachelor party. He is in charge of planning the party and has planned for the guys to go to a strip club. Of course, I'm not thrilled at the idea of my boyfriend going to a strip club with a bunch of guys, getting drunk, and seeing naked women (or worse, getting lap dances). He and I have talked about it and I know that I can trust him and we love each other, but I still hate the idea of it. I'm not going to tell him not to do it, because that's unrealistic and I don't want to be controlling.
How should I deal with it without being an overbearing girlfriend? I'm not going to stop him from doing what he wants, but it still makes me upset.
Chances are really good that your boyfriend can have a beautful sexy babe grind on his crotch and it will mean absolutely nothing as respects his love, affection, and attraction for you.
I used to think only men were lustful pigs at strip joints until I saw a show on women at Chippendales.
Believe me, men at strip joints are boring compared to the squealing, grabby women at a men's strip performance.
It really means nothing other than a vehicle for temporary lust.
If you expect your future husband to isolate his lust to you, you are going to be disappointed.
Neither you nor him are Aphrodite or Apollo. He will be attracted to other women as you are to other men.
Fidelity in spite of abounding lust is the measure of a relationship.
If you believe he is going to take one of the strippers to the VIP Room for a hand-job, dump him.