@Caroline,
Caroline wrote:
Awhile ago I was in a thread about infidelity and a user named dumbwife forgave her husband for a string of affairs. My question is in the title, would you forgive your partner if he/she cheated, could you forgive them more than once even if you knew for sure that he/she wouldn't do it again, what are you reasons for forgiving or leaving? I find it very hard to trust again but thank goodness I haven't had to deal with cheating in my current relationship, I think I might forgive depending on the circumstances although I would find it very difficult but if you love someone you want to forgive them but I'm not so sure I would find it easy not to bring it up all the time and rub his face in it because it is hurtful, people who cheat often do it without considering innocents feelings and what it will do to them but that's a whole new subject.
So would you forgive a cheat or not and what are your reasons? And thanks to Dumbwife for a thought provoking subject. I'm interested in your views as I've been there on both sides but now that I'm older my values have changed, when I was younger everybody was cheating on everybody but as you get older it ruins lives especially if children are involved, some forgive a cheat for the kids sake. I'm a jealous person not overly but if a girl hit on my man she'd know about it so I would find the whole thing difficult but it does happen, why?
I am not sure I can forgive my wife and as far as I know, she has not cheated; and I have sort of, because I have denied her knowledge of how much I love her out of fear of her absolute power over me, and I have denied her my complete trust...
It is possible to be too hurt some times by the possibility of being hurt... She doubts me, and doubts my love and is absolutly right to do so, and she reminds me of my dishonor, even though I have never cheated while never being true, and there is the knowledge that she is right, and I am in the wrong, and I cannot forgive her for it...
