I can't tell if he's having an orgasm without ejaculation, or if maybe I just really suck at oral.

@djjd62,

djjd62 wrote:

chai2 wrote:
In spirit of this thread.....blow me aidan.

What's gone with you boy?

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@The Pentacle Queen,

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I talk about sex to all my friends too; I'm a potty mouth, I don't care, but I think if I was the boyfriend I would much rather my girlfriend had told all the details to unknown people rather than people that I'd have to then socialise with at the pub knowing they know the sex wasn't that brilliant

and while this concerns a problem for both of them as a general rule I want my mate to have what she wants/needs, and if she wants/needs to talk about something to someone then I absolutely want her to do it. However, the less she can negatively impact my life by doing this the better. Often the internet is the perfect solution.

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@chai2,

No thank you - you'd probably discuss my technique - and I'm sure you'd find something wrong with it.

I didn't even know you Chai when you wrote that **** to me privately how many years ago - four- five?
Whatever. If I feel that a young woman should be advised to keep her boyfriend's private **** private - I'll do it.
That has nothing to do with or in common with me repeating word for word what you said to me- yes me - you made your words accessible to me (for some reason I have never figured out). You were belittling and derisive and I had no idea who the hell you were and why you were speaking privately to me, and in such a manner.

That's totally different from someone not giving another person who trusts her the chance to know what she's talking to other people about and saying about him.

You keep your anger going. Maybe it'll make you feel better some day.

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@questionableasker,

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and yes, I have asked him

Well then, as I said in my first post and every post after that - that if you've asked him if it's alright and he's said yes - that's totally different.

I'm glad you asked him.

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@aidan,

aidan wrote:

I didn't even know you Chai when you wrote that **** to me privately how many years ago - four- five?

What difference does that make?

A human being sent something called a PRIVATE message to another human being, and the recepiant was too dense to understand that meant PRIVATE.

Doesn't matter is I PM'd you to tell you I loved you, wanted your recipe for Apple Brown Betty, or to tell you you're full of ****.

You clearly did not understand the premise of the work PRIVATE message, and chose to identify a the person trying to communicate with you, by name.

I'll bet you never done that again with anyone, have you?

You just don't like it when someone calls you on your crap.

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@chai2,

No, I never have done it with anyone again - because no on else has ever sent me an abusive private message privately while on the public thread that everyone else was reading - said the exact opposite of what they were saying to me privately.

Maybe it's you who doesn't like being called on your crap.

You're the one who's still angry five years later - I'd forgotten all about it.

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@OmSigDAVID,

David - I don't know how to explain it any more clearly than I have.

For me - and only for me - I understand this by everyone else's reaction- but this doesn't change mine:

I would not care about people finding out who the post was about. I would not care about being embarrassed.
What I would care about is someone I trusted to keep my **** private - making it public.
That would be a betrayal - to ME.
I understand that you wouldn't care about the privacy as long as you were not identified and embarrassed.

And that's fine too.

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@aidan,

Keep crawfishing aidan. Keep distracting attention away from yourself. Everything you have said is totally irrelevant to the fact you can't be trusted to not breach privacy.

In your world, if you don't like what someone is saying privately, you get to advertise their words. If you like what their saying, you keep it private. You can't have it both ways.

For someone who had "forgotten about it", you certainly remember a lot of details, that I can't.

All I remember is that I couldn't take your "holier than thou" crap any more.

Still can't.

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@questionableasker,

questionableasker wrote:

"I mean think about it - what if your girlfriend had had sex with you and then you check her internet history and go to the last website she visited and read her last post which said something like - 'and then we fucked - or tried to **** - but D., my boyfriend couldn't get it up, so blah, blah, blah, blah, blah...'"

Can I just ask how him checking my internet history wouldn't be an even WORSE offense?

Ha... yes, I had the same thought.

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@aidan,

aidan wrote:

David - I don't know how to explain it any more clearly than I have.

For me - and only for me - I understand this by everyone else's reaction- but this doesn't change mine:

I would not care about people finding out who the post was about. I would not care about being embarrassed.
What I would care about is someone I trusted to keep my **** private - making it public.
That would be a betrayal - to ME.
I understand that you wouldn't care about the privacy as long as you were not identified and embarrassed.

And that's fine too.

I 'm only trying to bring out the point
that as a matter of strict and pure logic, it is absolutely IMPOSSIBLE
to violate anyone 's privacy without identifying that person.

Simply saying that some human being did thus and so
does NOT disturb the privacy of Joe Blow.

That statement has NO INFLUENCE on the privacy of that person
if he is NOT identified to the acts that are asserted.

Invasion of privacy in those anonymous circumstances simply CANNOT HAPPEN.

Anonymity confers IMMUNITY upon the privacy of the person whose name has been withheld.

David

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@jespah,

jespah wrote:

I think asking on an anonymous forum would be far preferable to asking a friend.

Exactly what I was getting ready to say.

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@roger,

Roger is my friend and I wouldn't even ask him about the weather.

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@dyslexia,

dyslexia wrote:

Roger is my friend and I wouldn't even ask him about the weather.

he told me that winter was coming

'bout the only thing that is so far in this thread Razz

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@djjd62,

hahaha.

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@questionableasker,

It is quite possible that he is very nervous and anxious which gives him the giggles. You getting the giggles just changes the entire dynamic and probably makes things even more uncomfortable.

Relax. Don't hurry. Enjoy each other and let things sort themselves out. And, above all......follow your instincts and don't get too hung up on what you have been reading here.

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@Intrepid,

thank you.

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@questionableasker,

Agreeing with Intrepid, Chai (on several counts), and Sozobe, and maybe some others, haven't read back just now.

Welcome to a2k, questionableasker - I'm impressed that you have 'hung in there' on this thread.

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@OmSigDAVID,

Quote:

I 'm only trying to bring out the point
that as a matter of strict and pure logic, it is absolutely IMPOSSIBLE
to violate anyone 's privacy without identifying that person.

Simply saying that some human being did thus and so
does NOT disturb the privacy of Joe Blow.

That statement has NO INFLUENCE on the privacy of that person
if he is NOT identified to the acts that are asserted.

Invasion of privacy in those anonymous circumstances simply CANNOT HAPPEN.

Anonymity confers IMMUNITY upon the privacy of the person whose name has been withheld.

Maybe I should have used the word 'trust'. And maybe it's just me- I've allowed that. But when I enter into a relationship with one person that is totally different from my relationships with other people and I am sharing something with that person - like sex-that I am not sharing with any other person - there's a reason I have chosen that SPECIFIC person to share this with. And there's a reason that I have not chosen anyone else to share it with.

Because I want that to be PRIVATE between me and that person.

Now - this girl did apparently ask her boyfriend if she could share his private sexual issues. He gave her permission to do so.
I think it's wonderful that she respected him enough to ask him first.
That's all I'm saying about it.
I would advise my own daughter to handle it similarly.

I would also advise my own daughter NOT to go on the internet and describe her blow job technique and her boyfriend's response to it without asking her boyfriend if he was alright with it.

Jesus - what is the big deal?

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@chai2,

Quote:

Keep crawfishing aidan. Keep distracting attention away from yourself. Everything you have said is totally irrelevant to the fact you can't be trusted to not breach privacy.

In your world, if you don't like what someone is saying privately, you get to advertise their words. If you like what their saying, you keep it private. You can't have it both ways.

For someone who had "forgotten about it", you certainly remember a lot of details, that I can't.

All I remember is that I couldn't take your "holier than thou" crap any more.

Still can't.

I don't know how to crawfish- maybe you can write me a private message and tell me how.

I didn't have the opportunity to give you any indication I would keep anything you said to me private. I didn't KNOW you. I posted that **** to say, ' Does anyone know this person and why the hell is she spewing this **** at me?'
Just because you wanted your **** to stay private, doesn't mean I was under any obligation to keep that sort of **** private. I didn't have a relationship with you or enter into any sort of agreement with you. I didn't know who the hell you were or why you were talking to me like that.

If someone did that again to me tomorrow - I'd do the same thing...acrimony and abuse from someone I don't even know makes me uncomfortable in private. I'd rather deal with it right out in the open.

But you know what - I don't have the malice in my heart or the energy to keep grudges going. When I say 'I forgot about it' - I meant - as far as I was concerned it was in the past.
You want to keep it going - you're gonna have to do it on your own.

If I obsessed over every slight someone did me - I'd be wasting my life.
I refuse to do that.
As they say over here - this sort of **** is 'much of a muchness'. I can't spend any more time on it.

I wish you only the best in life Chai - and you can take that to the bank.

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@sozobe,

Quote:

Can I just ask how him checking my internet history wouldn't be an even WORSE offense?

Quote:

Ha... yes, I had the same thought.

It was a fictional scenario. I had to figure out some way that David would see what his 'girlfriend' had written.

I've never checked anyone's history in my life - except my own - when I can't remember what website I visited that I liked and wanted to visit again.

But I'll tell you this - if I DID have an inkling my sexual partner was going on the internet and giving a blow by blow of our activity - I WOULD check the history - just so I'd know what everyone else was getting to hear about MY life.

I'm a curious person. Luckily - I've never been with anyone I'd even have the remotest notion that they'd do something like that. So it's not a concern.

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