@sffsa,
sffsa wrote:
my girl friends family is broke and has lots of bills to pay already they can bearly keep the house they have so little money is that a valid reason because that is why i bought the stuff so the family would not have to worry about it anyways you told me to sell it so i did well most of it i kept the tux the ring and the dress can i keep those or should i sell them to if it was not for me they would be living on the street i pay most of their bills and for most of their idems im would be rich if i didn't but money does not buy happness that to and i donate lots of money to the poor ananotamysly because i dont care if people know me and god know thats all that matters
Thank you for this answer. It explains a lot!
I'm going to answer you, assuming that she will say "yes" whenever you propose.
Yes, keep the tux and the ring. Those expenses are the groom's responsibility. I agree with Izzie, though, about the dress. I cannot imagine anyone picking out a wedding dress for someone else! That is MUCH too personal!
I bet you were thinking a wedding dress is an expensive thing, and she doesn't have much money so you wanted to help her by taking care of this. Am I right? That is a nice thought. But here is the right way to do it. Tell her you are happy to pay for the wedding expenses, and she and her mother (that's how it is often done) can go pick out a dress and invitations and whatever she will need, and you will pay for them. Then the two of you
together can set a limit on how much you want to spend. This way, you get to help, and she gets to do all the things brides want to do. You both win!
(Remember, when you propose, tell her if she wants a ring with a different design, that is OK with you. If she wants to look at other designs, take her with you to the jewelry store to exchange it. This will make her very happy. She will wear the ring every day, so she should love it.)
Does this help?
