Well... David's post does make it clear
that there are people who indeed don't take it seriously.
It was not my intention to create that impression.
It saddens me that u inferred that I was trying to be humorous.
Boomer, whether I am right or not,
I assure u, on my honor, that I am not kidding around on your thread.
What I posted is not
I was speaking earnestly
and from the heart.
I really, really don't get this:
If a sexual abuser is a MALE,
then he shoud go to jail, but that does not apply to women
who shoud be free of any such interference.
There are things, very brutal things,
that a male can do (relating to forcible sodomy)
that no female is able to do.
If a gay 15 year old boy is raped by a woman
should she go to jail and it be okay if he was raped by a man?
What u describe if accomplished by force is a criminal assault,
even if no sex were involved. For instance, if a female
kicks a boy in the ass, or throws a rock at him,
she shoud be held to account; that 's not sex related.
I have posted hereinabove on this thread that I condemn
and deplore perverted males having sexual contact with minors.
I 've said and re-iterate that statutory rape laws shoud legally
curtail the conduct of adult males.
Please do not
take this to be kidding,
because I offer this
with NO humor
I sincerely believe that it is very unlikely that normal sexual intercourse (normal mating)
can be accomplished with a freightened male because,
in my opinion, he 'd not get an erection.
I have not yet read your quoted research.
I will do so, and possibly I will comment upon it,
depend ing on what it says.
I found this interesting overview of studies
(haven't looked up the actual studies yet though) showing that abuse
by men and women towards teenage boys isn't all that different:
Dynamics of Female Perpetrated Abuse
Some research has reported that female perpetrators commit fewer and less intrusive acts of sexual abuse compared to males. While male perpetrators are more likely to engage in anal intercourse and to have the victim engage in oral-genital contact, females tend to use more foreign objects as part of the abusive act (Kaufman, 1995). This study also reported that differences were not found in the frequency of vaginal intercourse, fondling by the victim or abuser, genital body contact without penetration, or oral contact by the abuser.
Females may be more likely to use verbal coercion than physical force. The most commonly reported types of abuse by female perpetrators include vaginal intercourse, oral sex, fondling, and group sex (Faller, 1987; Hunter et al., 1993). However, women also engage in mutual masturbation, oral, anal, and genital sex acts, show children pornography, and play sex games (Johnson, 1989; Knopp and Lackey, 1987). The research suggests that, overall, female and male perpetrators commit many of the same acts and follow many of the same patterns of abuse against their victims. They also do not tend to differ significantly in terms of their relationship to the victim (most are relatives) or the location of the abuse (Allen, 1991; Kaufman et al., 1995).
It is interesting to note in the study by Kaufman et al., (1995), that 8% of the female perpetrators were teachers and 23% were baby-sitters, compared to male perpetrators who were 0% and 8% respectively. Finkelhor et al., (1988) also report significantly higher rates of sexual abuse of children by females in daycare settings. Of course Finkelhor's findings should not surprise us given that women represent the majority of daycare employees.
Research on teen and adult female sexual abuse perpetrators has found that many suffer from low self-esteem, antisocial behaviour, poor social and anger management skills, fear of rejection, passivity, promiscuity, mental health problems, posttraumatic stress disorder, and mood disorders (Hunter, Lexier, Goodwin, Browne, and Dennis, 1993; Mathews, Matthews, and Speltz, 1989). However, as in the case of male perpetrators, research does not substantiate that highly emotionally disturbed or psychotic individuals predominate among the larger population of female sexual abusers (Faller, 1987).
There is some evidence that females are more likely to be involved with co-abusers, typically a male, though studies report a range from 25% - 77% (Faller, 1987; Kaufman et al., 1995; McCarty, 1986). However, Mayer (1992), in a review of data on 17 adolescent female sex offenders, found that only 2 were involved with male co-perpetrators. She also found that the young women in this study knew their victims and that none experienced legal consequences for their actions.
Self-report studies provide a very different view of sexual abuse perpetration and increase the number of female perpetrators substantially. In a retrospective study of male victims, 60% reported being abused by females (Johnson and Shrier, 1987). The same rate was found in a sample of college students (Fritz et al., 1981). In other studies of male university and college students, rates of female perpetration were found at levels as high as 72% - 82% (Fromuth and Burkhart, 1987, 1989; Seidner and Calhoun, 1984). Bell et al., (1991) found that 27% of males were abused by females. In some of these types of studies females represent as much as 50% of sexual abusers (Risin and Koss, 1987). Knopp and Lackey (1987) found that 51% of victims of female sexual abusers were male. It is evident that case report and self-report studies yield very different types of data about prevalence. These extraordinary differences tell us we need to start questioning all of our assumptions about perpetrators and victims of child maltreatment.
Finally, there is an alarmingly high rate of sexual abuse by females in the backgrounds of rapists, sex offenders, and sexually aggressive men, 59% (Petrovich and Templer, 1984), 66% (Groth, 1979), and 80% (Briere and Smiljanich, 1993). A strong case for the need to identify female perpetrators can be found in Table 4, which presents the findings from a study of adolescent sex offenders by O'Brien (1989). Male adolescent sex offenders abused by "females only" chose female victims almost exclusively.
In my opinion it doesn't matter if the abuser is a man or a woman,
they're doing the same things to the same person and it is criminal.
The abuser's gender doesn't make a difference.
I don 't see it that way.
To my mind,
opinion, it woud have been a much worse,
much more painful memory to me, both physically and emotionally,
if I had been forcibly sodomized by a male.