@oralloy,
Again, subjectiveness is not about making your reality what you want it to be, though you do that while saying you don't. Subjectiveness exists because:
- the brains filtration system. You do not remember everything you hear or see, only the things that have meaning. This means a lot of things that do have meaning, your brain discards, because it doesn't recognise it to have meaning. If you want to look up how short & long term memory works, then you'll probably start grasping some of this.
- your experiences, desires, emotions influence what your brain holds on to and what you discard
- your experiences, desires, and emotions influence how you interpret events
- your values and beliefs help you to decide what is right and wrong...but not everyone will agree with you what is right and wrong, because they will have different values and beliefs.
All of this is makes anything we think subjective. None of it is 'making reality what you want it to be'...unless you go that step further, and ignore the subjectiveness of life to try and create an absolute...which is what you are doing.
You even admit you have no idea what I'm talking about, having never read psychology, never attempted philosophy in this area, never apparently even seen the shades of grey in life...but not knowing anything of these things, you are certain you are right. Wilful ignorance is one of the ways that people do create their own reality.