He loves me but my boyfriend is abusive at times...

Conflicted came to this thread to help out a poster in need. You came here to troll her and to derail the thread (which you've succeeded in doing and I acknowledge my own participation to that end). Yes, you're entitled to your opinion. This thread is not the proper place to express it.
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Perhaps you do have a point not a large point but a point in any case.

Still this thread was dead for some time before our cheating friend posted here if memory serve me correctly.

I need to go back and look at the posting dates to be sure of the above statement.

The last posting in this thread was in July before our friend added her comment.

Therefore I do not think you have grounds to complain that I did interfere with a live thread and as far as coming here to troll the poor cheating lady. as this thread came up on top of my postings list and as with any thread that I had posted onto when that happen I check the postings.

No clue until I check who had posted on this old thread or why.

That was my point exactly. Just because a thread isn't active doesn't mean that it doesn't serve as a beacon to others who are suffering with real life dilemmas.
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Sorry but I can not agree that taking her on for being a hypocritic on a thread that no one had posted on for half a year is a sin in any way or on any manner.

If I had posted on a live thread where posters was still enacting with someone in an abusive relationship I can more then see your point.

As far as a search finding this thread and someone reading it for help they would need to read a hundred of more on topic postings before getting to this point and I still see zero harm.

Hello Bill go to hell Bill.................

That's Really Cruel To Say!!!

Hi DeniseR, I'm gonna be the only guy here to stick up for this geezar. I don't know who he is or what the exact circumstances of the situation are, only that violence in a relationship is unpleasant at the best of times. But perhaps with a bit of counselling and or tlc it is possible to work a way around? Think about the children before you take any rash decision. And if you do love him, don't dump him because of what these Jackals say ok? And yeah I have been in a violent relationship (both ways) and so i do know what i am talking about!!

Raising a child in a home with excessive conflict is never desired, but sometimes it is the right thing to do. there are a lot of things to consider, most immediately the economic support for the child if the home is broken, but then also the psychological cost to the child of breaking the home. Another thing to consider is that if the partner is the parent of the child leaving will not allow the breaking of all ties you have with the ex-partner, nor will the child be removed from the influence of the person you are considering leaving.

In a given situation I might or might not leave myself, but I firmly believe in letting people live their own lives as best they can, so absent the child being placed in clear danger I have no grounds to object to what is decided upon.

Good point Hawkeye, but seeing as the op has disappeared into oblivion, who knows what has been decided?

Spending like there is no tomorrow, leaving the debt for our kids, and not keeping the infrastructure of the nation in good order so that the kids will have a functioning nation in which to build their lives is clearly child abuse too under that definition. So is providing a crappy education. So is removing almost all rights from the teen years. So is making demands upon the kids that the adults are not willing to follow ourselves, such as no bullying, no lying, no sex, save the earth, be kind to others..... Are you planning to remove all kids from America?


I get a bit tired of this hyper vigilances to keep kids away from conflict in the home, to the point that we are willing to break up families, considering all the **** that all kids need to live with today and what more is to come. It is not like we have any great options other than family either, the state does not exactly do a bang-up job of raising these kids once they are removed.


I am not opposed to removing kids who are not being looked after, who are being hit, who are being sexually abuse, but to remove kids because we dont like the atmospherics in the home is usually counter productive, expensive, and not justified.

I have mixed feelings about the CPS practice of threatening mothers with removal of their children unless they agree to leave the men whom are considered the problem. I think it should be an option, but I wonder if it is used too often to browbeat women into doing what the state wants, the easy road, because the state assumes that guys are bastards and dont want to do the work it would take to help the partners tamp down on the abuse.