Reread denise's post.
A kick in the butt to get her moving in the right direction appears to be exactly what she is asking for.
Your stating what the goal is is only your distorted opinion. Just because it is stated does not make it so.
IMO the goal is for to not get beaten anymore, and to not risk her childs welfare.
She has expressed fear for herself and her child in multiple ways. She did not ask "how can I improve this relationship?" She asked "What should I do?"
"Do" is the operative word here. What this woman needs to DO is get herself and her child out of a heinous situation.
Being a sicko yourself hawkeye, it's no surprise to me you are trying to see this from the abuser side.
No more responses to you from me will be forthcoming.
hopefully, if denise is reading this, she'll consider the good advice good people are giving, and not think there's all this hope.