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My husband asked–are you putting on weight–what should I do?

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Chai
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 05:57 pm
dagmaraka wrote:
the fact that i don't desire to share every intimate detail with the other does not mean i am not accepting of what i look like. people have different personalities, you know.



Me?

If so,

What?
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hawkeye10
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 05:59 pm
dagmaraka wrote:
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I condemn the husband, but for an entirely different reason then you do.


??? for what do you "condemn" the husband?


For either not knowing that his comment would stir up these feelings and cause this reaction with his wife, or knowing it and saying it anyways. The husband was in the wrong. However, a marriage were talking about the wife's weight (and concerns about weight) is a problem is not my personal cup of tea.

Men should consider not allowing themselves to be shut down on any subject in a marriage, so I don't agree that men must just "take it" and drop the subject forever. Nobody unilaterally controls what can be talked about and what can not be in a healthy marriage. In my view every, and I mean every, subject should be open to talking. Doing is another matter.
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Chai
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 06:01 pm
You're just not listening, are you?
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dagmaraka
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 06:01 pm
chai wrote:

Me?

If so,

What?


no, not you, more or less ebrown, or just in general.
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hawkeye10
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 06:03 pm
Chai wrote:
You're just not listening, are you?


I am not agreeing, not the same thing.
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dagmaraka
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 06:05 pm
well, if you see respecting other's feelings as being 'shut down'.... that is not MY cup of coffee, but like i said - glad it's working out for ya.
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Joeblow
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 06:22 pm
Linkat, I think on a good day, I might say, rather wide-eyed and ernestly:

"That's right, my bald friend -- it's chubby sex or no sex from now on"

Then, I'd deke him out by pretending to punch him in the gut.
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High Seas
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 06:37 pm
hawkeye10 wrote:
Chai wrote:
You're just not listening, are you?


I am not agreeing, not the same thing.


Y'all never heard of Mrs Mercereau, of Staten Island, who murdered her husband after decades of his jokes concerning her elephantine bulk:



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In a society that tends to associate pudginess with laziness, women's weight can be a heavy issue in romantic relationships. For many, battling the bulge doesn't mean just fighting food cravings - it entails dealing with the harsh criticism of a loved one.

"He would point out women who were in really good shape. It gets in your head when your boyfriend's picking out other women that he finds attractive," says Lisa, a 24-year-old who blogs about life as an overweight woman at afatbridesmaid.blogspot.com. "This made me feel insecure. I was uncomfortable around him - and it was one of the reasons we broke up."


http://www.nypost.com/seven/02122008/entertainment/health/baby_got_back_97196.htm

Maybe printing this out and leaving copies lying around the house will solve the problem - or at least bury it underground (no pun intended).
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Mame
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 06:41 pm
hawkeye10 wrote:


Men should consider not allowing themselves to be shut down on any subject in a marriage, so I don't agree that men must just "take it" and drop the subject forever. Nobody unilaterally controls what can be talked about and what can not be in a healthy marriage. In my view every, and I mean every, subject should be open to talking. Doing is another matter.


You're idealistic, hawkeye. And that's all I'm going to say about that.
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Chai
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 08:38 pm
Oh...My....God.....

Hawkeye, after all your talk about communication and respect, and there being no forbidden subjects, I read your post on another thread, saying this....

Hillary finally got a clue and put Bill on a leash, Barack needs to do the same with his wife. He needs demonstrate that he can control his wife if he wants to have the job of controlling a national administration.

way to go.

maybe mr. linkat should demonstrate he can control his corner of the country by demonstrating he can control his wife's imagined weight gain.

http://www.sallad.net/blog/wp-content/uploads/oldblog/loser.jpg
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hawkeye10
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 08:49 pm
Chai wrote:
Oh...My....God.....

Hawkeye, after all your talk about communication and respect, and there being no forbidden subjects, I read your post on another thread, saying this....

Hillary finally got a clue and put Bill on a leash, Barack needs to do the same with his wife. He needs demonstrate that he can control his wife if he wants to have the job of controlling a national administration.

way to go.


Marriage is one relationship, a candidate and the people is another completely different one. there is no connection so far as I see. If Michelle was unwilling to be supportive of her husband he maybe should not have attempted the run for office. So far Michelle has not been supportive, she has put her own agenda ahead of his. She is in my oppinon behaving poorly.
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Rockhead
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 08:55 pm
Yer spread kinda thin, Hack...
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CalamityJane
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 08:59 pm
I'm with Rockhead, including the hack...Laughing
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dadpad
 
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Reply Thu 6 Mar, 2008 09:03 pm
dadpad wrote:
When I noticed my wife had put on some weight I didnt say anything, just started watching "Fat porn".


She started watching soft porn. What do you think that means.
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Fri 7 Mar, 2008 04:09 am
What about a man who doesn't notice when his wife loses 20 pounds?
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Chai
 
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Reply Fri 7 Mar, 2008 05:39 am
There's one of your problems hackeye, you don't see connections.
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squinney
 
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Reply Fri 7 Mar, 2008 06:27 am
1. Size 2? JeezusHChriiist! Get another bag of chips and eat 'em right in front of his face!

2. George - no manufacturer makes a girdle in size 2. You get points for "guts" in suggesting it, though. Laughing

3. Bear had no problem on a few occasions mentioning my weight. (Very few. He's aware of this rule!) He did so by saying something like, "Mmm. Your breasts have gotten bigger! Niiiice!"

I wouldn't have taken offense had Bear mentioned my weight gain with a simple "Are you gaining weight?" I would have just said, "Yeah. Probably." and left it at that. Whether he would have intended it as mean or as concern for my health wouldn't have mattered. I'm not a trophy wife, and I'm a separate being whether I'm married or single. My weight and self image is not tied to others opinions. It is my opinion of me and my concern for my health that matters in the end. If I get unhappy with my weight, I'll change it. Otherwise, have a nice day... And, enjoy your porn.


(Linkat - don't forget the French Onion Dip with those chips.) :wink:
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hawkeye10
 
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Reply Fri 7 Mar, 2008 06:40 am
Chai wrote:
There's one of your problems hackeye, you don't see connections.


Ya, for instance I don't see where Hawkeye's problem's according to Chai is relevant to the thread topic, but maybe in in your mind it is. Does this mean that you are done with the topic?? Do you have anything to offer besides drive bys?
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Bi-Polar Bear
 
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Reply Fri 7 Mar, 2008 06:43 am
did you gain weight over the years squinney? I never noticed. I just thought you became more beautiful with time and now you're saying you got heavier? Huh.

did I get heavier? balder? Laughing
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squinney
 
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Reply Fri 7 Mar, 2008 06:51 am
No. I said IF I had and had you mentioned it... :wink:
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