Along the same lines, I put up a wedding picture of my wife as my background on my laptop a few months back. She asked me why I decided to dig out an old wedding photo and scan it in for use as a background. (We've been married 25 years)
Well, I answered honestly that it was so I would be reminded how she looked back then when she was thin.
I managed to avoid the large objects she threw at me and suffered only mild cuts and abrasions from the small items.
I now use a nice mountain lake scene as my background and I stay away from comments about her weight. Hopefully your husband has learned his lesson quickly also. :wink:
I agree with Hawkeye. In what I consider a healthy marriage, spouses should be able to talk about anything.
My wife and I talk about the fact that I am gaining weight... and that I am losing hair... no big deal.
It seems to me that comfortability and emotional intimacy in a marriage are good things.
CoastalRat wrote:Along the same lines, I put up a wedding picture of my wife as my background on my laptop a few months back. She asked me why I decided to dig out an old wedding photo and scan it in for use as a background. (We've been married 25 years)
Well, I answered honestly that it was so I would be reminded how she looked back then when she was thin.
I managed to avoid the large objects she threw at me and suffered only mild cuts and abrasions from the small items.
I now use a nice mountain lake scene as my background and I stay away from comments about her weight. Hopefully your husband has learned his lesson quickly also. :wink:
Love it - actually my husband got off easy - I think I was so shocked at what he said - it really is unlike him.
Setanta was primarily raised by a set of grandparents.
His grandfather taught him well: "If Mama's not happy, nobody's happy".
I don't understand women who would marry a man but will not share with him her neurotic concerns about weight, would make the subject a no go zone. To me this is like marrying a man but not sharing your sexual fantasies with him. An intimate couple should be able to talk about anything, including his dick size.
CalamityJane wrote:You have absolutely no clue, hackeye.
"hackeye -
Hawkeye, you and epbrown seem to be on a very serious tangent here - chill out and lighten up!
A woman came home and asked her husband for 10,000 for a boob job.
He left the room and returned with a roll of toilet paper and told her to rub it across her boobs every day twice a day.
When she asked why she would do that and what it had to do with a boob job he answered "Honey, look what it's done for your ass".
Bear
Bi-Polar Bear wrote:A woman came home and asked her husband for 10,000 for a boob job.
He left the room and returned with a roll of toilet paper and told her to rub it across her boobs every day twice a day.
When she asked why she would do that and what it had to do with a boob job he answered "Honey, look what it's done for your ass".
You are soooo mean! Does that mean a man doesn't wipe his penis?
BBB
Mame wrote:, you and epbrown seem to be on a very serious tangent here - chill out and lighten up!
....are you.... suggesting that we are too.... heavy ? ...
((ebrown chokes back tears and looks for something to throw))
Well, I wasn't going to mention that paunch, but since you brought it up...
Mention the new diet plan? The one that lets you lose 160lb (or whatever he weighs) in one day.
ok, you want open communication?
him: are you gaining weight?
her: are you feeling suicidal?
look on the bright side. you can now patriotically support the droops
Linkat--
Your weight is the same, but you've been economizing on clothes. When your ship comes in, you deserve to go shopping.
Men!
Ok, serious here for a moment...
hawkeye/ebrown
This doesn't have to do with open communication.
You think when a person has gained some weight, they don't know it?
Fact: women, more than men, are generally more upset when they put on enough pounds that they can see it themselves in the mirror, or in the fit of their clothes.
If someone tells a man it looks like they've gained weight, they are more apt to reply "Yeah, I gotta buy some bigger pants"
I'm not going to debate which characteristics for men or women are more distressful for men and women, just accept for purposes of this thread weight is a biggie.
So, when you tell a woman she's gaining weight, it hurts because she's thinking "Don't you think I already know that? Don't rub my face in it"
The nearest comparison I can think of for a man is "mentioning" to him that he's failing at his job, that he's not able to supprt his family.
I know, not the best example, but the man would be hurt and angry that someone is pointing out to him something he already knows about, and hates.
maybe men, or some men can't understand why that telling or asking a woman about her weight would hurt her, but take it on faith it does.
BTW, hawkeye, you did what a lot a people do, men and women....you used the distraction technique, bringing up the toilet seat "game" as you put it.....if the other person falls for it, all of the sudden you're talking about their problem, not the origianl subject.
I suppose suggesting a girdle is pretty much out of the question...
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your a brave man George..
