dagmaraka wrote:hm, doesn't it kinda take away (or kill) any foreplay? I mean, i wouldn't want to come back if i was expected (and told) to go wash hands or shower.
Nope, doesn't take away, it enhances.
If you are expected to wash first....why wouldn't you have already done it before making the advance? If you've been with someone long enough you know what they like, why wouldn't you appreciate that, instead of having to be told?
What I just said above....I don't think that's any different than, let's say, if your partner was doing something that you just didn't find arousing, in fact, you disliked it. At some point you would have let him/her know by moving their hand, or saying "try this instead" or, when the time is right and you're speaking of such things, let them know that when they do that particular thing, you don't enjoy it.
I don't enjoy having sex with someone who isn't clean....it isn't separate from the experience, it's part of it.....since my partner knows that being smelly turns me off, and being clean turns me on, that's what he does as part of lovemaking.
We're not fumbling in the back seat of a car. We're in our comfortable home, moving from one stage of romance to the next.
You can get out of the shower, get in a warm robe, then cuddle up to your partner saying "Why don't you go get comfortable? I'll be waiting for you"
You don't have to clinicalyl tell the person "go wash your genitals"
Since this man's wife wants him to wash his hands, why doesn't he do what pleases her?
Pleasing someone vastly improves the chances of being pleased in return ten-fold.
For me, there's nothing that makes me want to make my husband happy in all ways then when he goes a little out of the way for me.
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