In memory of my dad

Hi Noddy24, Eva & gus,
My dad would never say anything when something was wrong. This time he hid it well.

In the mid 90's I stopped by my parents house and took one look at my dad and said get in the car, which hospital? He didn't want to go and I told him he had no choice. Either get in the car or I would call an ambulance. He got in the car. It was lung cancer and the doctor's caught it in time. He had surgery and they removed part of his lung.

When I took him back for a follow-up appointment we walked in the surgeon's office (actually this surgeon was in charge of the whole thoracic dept.) and I was stunned. It was the same surgeon who removed part of my lung when I was 19. He remembered me because he said he didn't perform many lung surgeries on 19 year old girls, especially the type of surgery I had.

I was in the hospital for 3 months and I had the biggest crush on him. I finally got to tell him that at my dad's appointment. How strange that my dad and I had the same surgeon that many years apart.

Does that mean now you have me right now

Thanks gus and you can give me crap, not literally, any time you want.

Just thinking of you dad

Dad
I went over and thanked each one of them. I thought they did a great job.

Thanks for serving our country dad. You know it means a lot to me.

Patriotic Tribute to our Military
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=38nx3mjXJMk
God Bless America - Celine Dion
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EqGJ7_T9SI4

I will feed the squirrels for you. This one showed up and I fed him just for you dad.

I'm so sorry for your loss TTH!

(((((((((TTH)))))))))

Thank you Montana

TTH, I was with my father almost to the end. The last thing we said to each other was that we loved each other. I was too upset at the time to think of what this might mean. But years later, it has left me with a good feeling--a feeling of closure.

Your being with your father at the end will give you a feeling that lasts a long time. A good feeling.

Your tribute honors him.

Thanks Roberta

When I was a teenager, someone actually called the cops on me for playing this song. It was during the summer and in the daytime too. The cops were going to take me to a juvenile detention center. My dad would not let them.

Beach Boys - Help Me Rhonda
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xaMl9fSnwIE

btw I still have that album

Just wanted to bring some things forward.

Dad,
I am so so sorry that you had to die like that. I would have done anything to have kept that from happening. No one should have to go like that. I was so tempted to just turn up that machine but, someone who knows me said "don't", you will go to prison.

People are going to think I am weird for writing to you on a computer but, I don't care since most people think I am weird anyway.

I miss you so much and I think of you everyday. Love you dad.

9/11 is over dad and it was the first day I didn't cry. I thought this was funny and I wonder if you would have.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pgqEpW0aNPo&mode=related&search=

I also wanted to post a picture for you.

Dad,
I have to leave soon

no matter what
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ogjFSW7PqRY

I finally looked at my dad's death certificate and discharge papers (DD214).
He was 16 when he entered the military but, you were suppose to be 18. So, he put his year of birth as 1924. It wasn't an issue until he applied for Social Security.

Looking at the DD214 it says "WOUNDS RECEIVED AS A RESULT OF ACTION WITH ENEMY FORCES (Place and date, if known)"

"Two (2)"

WTH? The military didn't know where? or were they so lazy someone didn't bother to enter it?

My dad taught me how to play cards. I really don't like to but, I will on occasion. Too bad you aren't here dad because I just got a call from Harrah's.
They are paying for me & a guest to go to Tahoe.

I guess they want their money back They aren't getting it back

So dad,
I just got a phone call and now I know why you did certain things before you died. I had a feeling something was going on but, you told me there was nothing wrong.
So, that is why I stayed away for over a month. I thought if I didn't stop by, nothing would happen. It didn't work though.

To the person that sent me a pm. I can't answer back by pm because I don't have those priviledges. I want you to know I did read your pm though. You can make a post on this thread anytime you want. It would not offend me. Thank you for the compliment and I am so sorry that your dad is not doing well. I hope you are not put in the same predicament I was.

I can tell you that most of the patients that were dieing in ICU had no one. Not a single visitor. They died alone. I am sure they were scared. I know my dad was. It isn't like most people think. My dad was aware and concious, even though he was medicated so he wouldn't feel the pain. It wasn't like he was asleep and just drifted off.

I was always for Death with Dignity but, our state didn't pass the law. Oregon did and I wish my dad would have been able to make his own choice.

My dad didn't email me but, he did email me this picture about a month before he died. He took the picture of me & my dog at their house in 2004. I didn't ask him why he emailed it to me. Now, I think I know the answer.

My condolences to you

TTH

Please accept my most sincere condolences on the loss of your father.

I am so sad that we have something in common. My father was from Tacoma, and was also a Marine in the Pacific. He lost his fight with cancer in June '06. I wish I could have been with him like you were there for your father.

God bless you.