Are there actually women who DON'T like giving oral sex?

Happycat, I always think that when I see the thread title too.

Well, gee, back in the therapeutic cathartic seventies, we talked about sex generally, and who was getting it on with whom, and the complications of all that... but even then not specifically re intimate details. Really, who wants to know, or who wants to tell?

People probably do when they are fourteen now, but when I was fourteen, the subject was verboten. Much changed in society in my coming of age years. I have scads of women friends and there is an assumption of privacy re the mechanics of love and lust and just getting it on. As in, we're grownups. We did know, once in a while but not often, the odd peripheral story (she answered the door wearing only the jade necklace...), but that's all. So I agree with C.Jane on this.

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Thank you for that input, osso.

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You are welcome, Gustav.

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My friends and I never really got into any detail about sex, but we tossed some stuff out there.

Over 25 years of friendship with my best friend (who's no longer with us) and having several drunken happy hours through the years, we covered some ground. Usually laughing a lot along the way

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We mostly acted instead of talked...
not a lot of repression going on among my peers.

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gustavratzenhofer wrote:

I once had a girl give me a blow job in a sauna and I ejaculated with such force that I took out one of her eyes.

I still see her around town now and then and the eye patch still, to this day, bothers me.

Call it guilt. Call it whatever you want.

Yeah, baby, as it should.

But I think it's really unfair that SHE's the one with the eyepatch.

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ossobuco wrote:

We mostly acted instead of talked...
not a lot of repression going on among my peers.

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ossobuco wrote:

We mostly acted instead of talked...
not a lot of repression going on among my peers.

...and that's just about the same for good old Europe. Razz

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Nods...

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I can remember only one long discussion of oral sex occurring in my life.

(There were several other, shorter, ones, but they were more like yelps than talking.)

I was seated at a bar with five women, this kind of event has been a regular one for me since I was a teenager, I don't know why. Anyway, the talk turned to somehow to oral sex --- Oh, it might have been a line from Monty Python --- and the consensus was, for four out of the five, that handling their man made it easier to handle their man. That it was a really good way to feel power over the guy as he lay there under their control.

Joe(Though, if he were standing, the effect was not the same.)Nation

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Joe Nation wrote:

I can remember only one long discussion of oral sex occurring in my life.

(There were several other, shorter, ones, but they were more like yelps than talking.)

I was seated at a bar with five women, this kind of event has been a regular one for me since I was a teenager, I don't know why. Anyway, the talk turned to somehow to oral sex --- Oh, it might have been a line from Monty Python --- and the consensus was, for four out of the five, that handling their man made it easier to handle their man. That it was a really good way to feel power over the guy as he lay there under their control.

Joe(Though, if he were standing, the effect was not the same.)Nation

Huh?

Not for me.

If I really feel passion and/or love my man, it is shatteringly lovely if he really enjoys it.......makes me cry and shake with tenderness and joy.

If not?

Kind of yucky, but fair's fair.

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That was the fifth one's opinion.

Joe(I hang around with some odd crowds)Nation

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A long-time friend of mine once showed me a gorgeous new sofa she and her husband had just bought. Very expensive. Her comment regarding the cost was,
"I had to do a lot of swallowing to get that!"

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happycat wrote:

Men like to think that all women are like the women on Sex and the City; that when we get together all we talk about is them. :wink:

Actually, the message we get from the mass media is that women talk about EVERYTHING, and that men talk about NOTHING. So at least this discussion has gone someway to proving the old Aussie saying that "half of what you hear is bull, and the other half's all sh!t".

Admittedly, I couldn't imagine my wife discussing our sex life with anyone, but being Thai, she's embarrassed by a kiss on the cheek in public.
Regardless about the tales of sex tourists in Asia, outside of Japan, most Asians are extremely conservative sexually.

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Wilso wrote:

Regardless about the tales of sex tourists in Asia, outside of Japan, most Asians are extremely conservative sexually.

Yes, for the individuals, it amounts to nothing but a move out of desparation, and slavery. Crying or Very sad

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What's this acting OR talking dichotomy? It can't be both?

I'm trying to think of examples of when it's come up:

- Early on, how-to's
- Funny stories
- New guy's so great, for example he...
- I can't believe that after 10 years of marriage, we...

It's part of life. Seems weird for me to only ever talk about sex with my husband. I talk to (very good) friends about other intimate aspects, relationship stuff, and that's helped keep me sane. Journals help but sometimes that's not enough. And relationship stuff often contains some sort of sex details, too.

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Of course, Soz. I agree. And yeah, some of my friends and I talk about sex and even some of our preferences and experiences.

I do believe there are women who don't have oral sex as a preference. Ok, not me, I think it is one of the highlights of being with someone who has the equipment for that sort of oral yall are talking about.

But I do believe the friend of mine who says she doesn't like it nor hate it, and does it to please her hubby more than anything.

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Don't mind it as long as it's nice and clean. Oh and always get mine first.

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I HAVE to do it to the lady first.....once I've come I feel copletely "unsexual" Crying or Very sad

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I don't discuss these types of things with my girlfriends or sisters, either. I don't want to know what they do or how they do it, and I don't want to share my details.

I don't think these discussions are a mark of how close we are as friends... it's just we don't have any interest in talking about these kinds of things.

Plus, if you do discuss it, you're sharing info about your current guy which is a bit of a betrayal - I think that's the closest I can get to with my non-functioning mind at the moment. I know my husband would not appreciate details about our sex life floating around out there.

We're not prudes; we're just private.

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