Chai wrote:You've known girlfriends for 20 plus years and don't know if they like giving blowjobs?!
jeez....they must not be very good friends.
Talk about being respressed.
In 20 plus years I can't imagine someone you consider a pretty good friend, sometime, somewhere, somehow mentioning something about their sex lives.
That's fascinating. I never realized that women talk about such intimacies to each other. Men, as a rule, don't. Oh, very young studs might brag about this or that experience they've had but -- again, as a rule -- bedroom intimacies stay in the bedroom. I wouldn't dream of telling my very best male friend anything specific that my wife and I might or might not do between the sheets. And if I asked him about his own preferences, he'd at the very least look at me funny. I have friends I've known for 20 and even 30 years and have no idea what they like in a sexual relationship. And they know nothing about my tastes in that area, either. It's not exactly dinner-table conversation among men.
caribou wrote:Oh.. it was for a movie....
You didn't feel that was worth mentioning?
Merry Andrew wrote:Chai wrote:You've known girlfriends for 20 plus years and don't know if they like giving blowjobs?!
jeez....they must not be very good friends.
Talk about being respressed.
In 20 plus years I can't imagine someone you consider a pretty good friend, sometime, somewhere, somehow mentioning something about their sex lives.
That's fascinating. I never realized that women talk about such intimacies to each other. Men, as a rule, don't. Oh, very young studs might brag about this or that experience they've had but -- again, as a rule -- bedroom intimacies stay in the bedroom. I wouldn't dream of telling my very best male friend anything specific that my wife and I might or might not do between the sheets. And if I asked him about his own preferences, he'd at the very least look at me funny. I have friends I've known for 20 and even 30 years and have no idea what they like in a sexual relationship. And they know nothing about my tastes in that area, either. It's not exactly dinner-table conversation among men.
Not all women, Andrew, as I said previously, and it has nothing to do
with repression, it has everything to do, in what circles of friends one
converses with. All my friends and I are very close, why would I have
friends otherwise, but none of us would talk about their bedroom activities,
and it's not even an European thing, as I have American girlfriends who
think and do the same - intimate pillow talk is tabu!
Wow, I'm absolutely dying to hear more about Caribou's work!
You work making props or something? (If yes, then one is left to ponder what use a movie had for carved penii as a prop...)
As far as discussing intimate things with girlfriends, I have only one friend who seems to assume that that is part of being close friends; none of my other friends do that. I don't feel that I'm more or less close to the one who confides about that kind of thing, either. ....On second thought, actually, I think feel
more distanced from her, as I don't understand the impulse to discuss that kind of thing with friends, so she seems a little...
different...to me.
I definitely don't think it's a mark of repression to not talk about that kind of thing with friends. Some of us just expect and need different kinds of support from our friendships, that's all, and that doesn't happen to be something that I or my friends need from our relationships with each other.
When I first read Caribou's post, I thought the word "carving" was simply a typo of the word "craving".
This would have been a more normal sentence I think and would have even been appropriate given the topic.
Chai wrote:Mr Tea said he knew some guy who didn't like blow jobs, thought they were disgusting.
He probably just didn't like the taste.
Look the point of my post was ...
No, I don't have discussions with my girlfreinds about sex. Maybe frequecy, or if there was a problem but not what we like to do...
I have a hard time imagining anyone that doesn't like oral sex, but I do know a co-worker that doesn't know the details of a penis... So maybe she has issues getting up close and personal.
There, is that better and sound more "on" topic?
CalamityJane wrote: it has everything to do, in what circles of friends one
converses with.
Gee, you're so subtle
Yeah, my circle of friends ususally tell me this stuff when they're nodding out from the needle sticking out of their arm.
Sometimes, when a few of us are mucking out one of septic tanks behind our double wide trailers, we take a break and pop a few malt liquors and talk about blowjobs and hand jobs as well.
Merry Andrew....It doesn't have to be in great detail. Women don't ususally sit around giving a second by second accounting of their sex lives. No more than you say men do.
However, if you've been friends with someone that long, you've probably known them through more than one relationship. Sex and love are very intertwined for a woman, as most people know, and the mention of oral sex does not indicate you know what someone is doing it graphic detail.
I thought that's what being good friends was all about, being able to share anything from money advice, to problem pregnancies, to why they have that special glow sometimes.
Men like to think that all women are like the women on Sex and the City; that when we get together all we talk about is them. :wink:
Talking about men is not equal to discussing intimate sexual pleasures.
Do you just toss out random thoughts at your leisure, Jane?
I don't think men think that.
What, may I ask ladies, is wrong with talking about sex with a friend? And no, not like it's ALL you talk about, or talk about it grossly.
I've talked with my friends about death, religion, pets, business, jobs, movies, books, taxes, investments, food, divorce, getting married, being sick, getting well, travel, science fiction, gynocologists, cancer, althzheimers, parents, children, medication, exercise, clothes, shopping, depression, joy, confusion, anxiety, cars, politics, medical issuses, mental issues, incontinence,.....and that's about 1% of what I've covered....you mean to tell me, the subject of sex has never come up?
I never liked that show sex in the city, because it trivialises sex. But I know I'm not off the wall saying I've discussed sex with good friends, male and female.
I guess that's all I have to say about that.
Yes, Kicky, there are women who don't perform oral sex. You see them every day, going to work, grocery shopping, waiting for the subway. It's difficult to tell them from the ones who do perform oral sex but there is a simple way to find out: Simply approach one of them and ask if they are married.
If they say 'Yes"... .
Joe(ain't a chance in hell unless it's on their boyfriend)Nation
I do have friends who are clearly uncomfortable with the subject -- I don't push it with them. Then others of us talk about it when it comes up (heh) but in the manner that Chai mentions, not as a big focus of discussion. There don't seem to be any clear class/ cultural demarcations between the people who happily talk about it and those who prefer not to talk about it, amongst my friends.
I, also don't talk sex details with friends. Sure we talk about sex and make general statements.
I did have a friend ,who my ex and I hung out with a lot with her husband as our kids are the same ages, mention that she didn't like to give. But I didn't ask her to elaborate. And she said it to both of us! And then another friend mentioned to a small group of us that a man who's had a vasectomy's semen doesn't taste as bitter. TMI
I guess that's another topic.
Chai wrote:I don't think men think that.
What, may I ask ladies, is wrong with talking about sex with a friend? And no, not like it's ALL you talk about, or talk about it grossly.
I've talked with my friends about death, religion, pets, business, jobs, movies, books, taxes, investments, food, divorce, getting married, being sick, getting well, travel, science fiction, gynocologists, cancer, althzheimers, parents, children, medication, exercise, clothes, shopping, depression, joy, confusion, anxiety, cars, politics, medical issuses, mental issues, incontinence,.....and that's about 1% of what I've covered....you mean to tell me, the subject of sex has never come up?
I never liked that show sex in the city, because it trivialises sex. But I know I'm not off the wall saying I've discussed sex with good friends, male and female.
I guess that's all I have to say about that.
Hey, I'm with ya, girl ;-)
We better get out of here! These folks are a little nuts, I think
I once had a girl give me a blow job in a sauna and I ejaculated with such force that I took out one of her eyes.
I still see her around town now and then and the eye patch still, to this day, bothers me.
Call it guilt. Call it whatever you want.
