sozobe wrote:Snood, would she be out if she were just *talking* to a guy, no sexual contact at all? That's a major point that hasn't been clarified by vstrong yet. It's not at all clear that she did anything more than talk to this other guy.
Just to be CRYSTAL clear, my problems with my wife are:
1. She has feeling for another man..not just talking but actual emotional feelings.
2. They way she has treated me the last 14 days is something no one should ever have to go through. I don't wish it upon my worst enemy.
3. She went to another mans house during this time if crisis.
She told me that she has feelings for this man. What is the difference between sexual contact and emotional feelings? I would rather have sex with some random guy than have feelings for another man. The fact that she went to his house Friday night is very disturbing...and I have no idea what happened there....she says nothing, but she went there, Thats not right on any level. How can anyone argue that? We are married ad she has fallen for another man.
So, sozobe, if your husband/wife had feelings for another man/woman you wouldn't see this has a concern? And she told me she's not in love with me"
She doesn't want to be around me really, she never wants to be home anymore, she said she is unwilling to give out marriage a chance, but I should not be concerned? I'm cinfused...i apologize in advance...i haven't eaten really and been through hell the last two weeks.
If anyone has any questions or doesn't understand something about this situation, please ask me and I would be glad to give you a detailed response so I can receive accurate advice.
Thanks again for everyone's responses. I really appreciate it.