Green Witch wrote:
Hep, There is also an old saying:"Women give sex to get love, men give love to get sex" - and while that is obviously not always the case, I think when women are not in a loving relationship they are more vulnerable to their emotional desires. I think women are more likely to feel they want sex when they really want the comfort of a man's presence, and thus masterbating doesn't always work to free us from our frustrations. I'm not saying your sexual frustrations are invalid, but it might be a deeper feeling of lonliness and having to brave the world solo that is creating these cravings. Believe it or not- I really am a feminist, but this is just what I've observed in my 40+ years of life.
Yeah I understand what you are saying GW. Most definitely. I think it's actually a combination of things really. Of course I'm feeling a bit lonely. In the last eight months alone I've lost my husband, moved to a new town where I don't know really anyone, found out I'm going to lose both of my dads to cancer sometime within the next year or so, and decided to walk away from something that has been a huge crutch in my life for 17 years.
Is this really my life right now? Geezy petes.
Anyway, so I think loneliness is playing it's part definitely. But there's another side too. I have a new found freedom in that I no longer feel the need to "save" myself for some knight in shining armor, as I once so foolishly believed, and I had a fling with someone who showed me that sex... can actually be good.
So of course I want some more of that.