Sorry for the confusion...
My motivation for my original post was steeped in anxiety, apprehension and sadness about my GF's behavior regarding careless nudity. Why? Because once I and a woman are serious enough to add physical expression to our feelings and relationship, I hold great value and meaning to this physical bonding. I feel a sense of betrayal if the woman disrespects and devalues this by abusing the privacy this aspect should naturally have.
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Variety pleases, and seeing someone naked all the time gets to be same old, same old.
In a similar sense as this quote, breeching the privacy and specialness of her naked body and the physical expression that are a part of this relationship, does indeed devalue and cheapen the beautiful nature that I feel this is supposed to have for the people in the relationship.
I may have been trying to express my feelings on this at the same time I was trying to get the situation described and in doing so created some ambiguities in the hastened process. Sorry! Looking back I can see how things I said might be misinterpreted and not made totally clear.
I think the main problem here is that I have tried to describe many incidents here in summary and they came across as conflicting. The main point being that there are many instances and variations of my GF either flaunting herself or talking about it. So relative to some specific posts here, there were multiple times when my GF was naked or partially naked in front of me and her girls or other people. For example: (all different times here)
Coming out of the shower and into the bedroom, me still in bed (covered) and either the girls open the closed door to come in to ask the mother something.
GF in bed with me, the door closed, the girls knock and want to come in. GF says it's ok to come in, we are under the covers. At some point covers slide off GF's top or GF gets out of bed naked in front of them (different instances). I make sure I stay covered. GF and I always have the door shut and even locked. One of the times this happened the one daughter wanted to cover my eyes.
The other day we were in bed with the door locked and the girls unlocked the door (poke tool though small hole in typical bedroom door handle) and came in. We were under covers but had started engaging in something. We stopped quickly enought when we heard the door opening and we were completely covered.
We were under the covers girls were in the room asking what we wanted for breakfast as they were going to make it for us. GF told the girls to leave the room so we could get up. GF walks out of bedroom totally naked while I was getting up and dressed with the door closed. About 10 minuttes later I walked into the living room and GF was sitting at a piano totally naked while the girls were on the couch watching TV. The girls made a comment about her being naked in front of me and she got up and said something like "Oh gosh girls...it's just skin!" I was leaving and I told her to put something on so she puts on a shirt or jacked and walks me to the door totally bottomless. I felt uncomfortable even opening the door to go out with her standing right there like that.
There were similar times when some of this kind of thing took place, like the one I mentioned in the other post where she had a robe on. Sorry for the confusion in the way I jumped around with the different incidents.
Years ago she was topless on the courthouse lawn with the father of her kids.
She sometimes wears a top that is way too loose when not wearing a bra so that leaning forward exposes her breasts. Even her 9 year old made a commeny about this.
She has worn a shirt that was somewhat transparent depending on how the light hit it and she was not wearing panties.
As far as GF parading around in public view: She does live in the country with no neighbors close by except her mother and step father about a couple hunders yards away with no direct view between the houses. There are hunters just about right in her yard in the fall and the house is angled to the road enough to have visibililty. There is also not much traffic on this country road. GF claims she is very careful when hunters are around. She does not have curtains on her windows and at night with the lights on in the house one can see in through the windows. Granted someone would have to be peeping from her yard or from the woods or just driving up the road but that certainly is not unheard of. Just like the one quote of the person seeing the woman undressing in front of the window.
I don't trust her discretion day or night whether I'm there or not there. I have seen her walk out into the living room at night when I was sitting in a chair in front of the curtainless windows with the lights on. She was totally naked and had no reservations whatsoever.
I have never seen or heard anything about her prancing around her yard naked. Although I fear this kind of thing. She was at my house which is also out in the country but I do have neighbors on either side of me and across the street. The 2 on either side can see into my back screened in porch and the one across the street could see part of my driveway. On one side there are kids who do come over here occasionally to ask to borrow something. They also play in their yard, between our yards and in the field sometimes behind my house. GF parks her car in the middle of my cirular driveway visible from all neighbors. She was standing in my kitchen naked one morning and wanted to run out to her car totally naked to get some clothes she left there. I was freakin' out and would not let her do this. She was defending it saying it's just a matter of convenience and that no one is around to see. She has absolutely no way of knowing who is around or not around relative to my neighbors.
Another time this summer she wanted to have sex with me out on MY screened in porch. Again someone could see us if they looked over at the porch. Or if someone (like kids next door) came over they come to the back of the house where the porch is and would clearly see us. I told her we should go into the bedroom or at least on the living room floor but she wanted the porch. She was walking around out there with no reservations and she got her way.
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Running naked out to the car is pretty high on my bizarre scale too.
Yeah mine too...herein lies the problem. With the exception of this whole nudity thing and a couple of other smaller issues, everything else about this woman is incredible, wonderful and seemingly almost perfect. You know like a soulmate. I have never had most of the feelings I have for her with anyone else in my life. I have always questioned if I ever really was in love with anyone before in my various relationships. I feel overwhelming feelings for this GF but I keep forcing myself to hold back because of this big problem as I see it. She wants me to let go and love her back and take things to the next level. The times I try to talk to her about her nudity quirks she gets agitated and defensive and usually makes me feel embarassed and prudish for feeling the way I do. I have not given her an ultimatum and and realize that you cant just tell someone to stop or change. If she can't truely see the problem and want to change herself then it will never happen. If she manages to then she would probably resent me and it would probably resurface at some time in the relationship.
So I was not exagerating anything and then trying to correct it but rather referring to different times and instances. I'm not sure I understand why anyone would get on here and make stuff up and I really don't get how someone could get a thrill out it. This is depressing for me. The best prospect for a true love finally comes into my life and then there has to be a show stopper type of problem with her.
She has demonstrated some conflicting views on things especially related to some femminist type viewpoints. I think that she has had the need in her past to subscribe to some femminist views and that original need may not be present anymore. I think she has had a need to show a wild side in her past that she really doesn't need to display anymore. I think the nudity flaunting is really a kind of immature hold over from a need it fulfilled at a different place and time in her life. She is professing very intense feelings and love for me now including talk of spending the rest of her life with me in marriage. She tells me things I have never heard a woman tell me before and we experience things (feelings) neither of us have ever experienced before. She is an intelligent woman working on her masters and plans to go on for her PhD. She has a history of abuse as a child from her real father and spent a lot of time living in different places with differnet people like older sisters as a result of the abusive home. I know that adult survivors of child abuse can have mental problems and issues related to this.
So to the possible end that she see the light and mend her ways recognizing that she might be holding on to some outdated behaviors and attitudes, I have hope and have not given up yet.
So I hope I have made clear what my intentions were in posting here. I hope I clarified everyones points of confusion. I really was looking for a site to ask a psychologist about much of this but have not found one yet. Does anyone know of any??? Dr. Phil maybe? They probably don't answer many emails like that though.