Quote:Are you kidding?? Call the Child protection because a kid sees his/her parent naked?
No, I never said.."Call Child protection because the child has seen the parent naked." If that were the case, than thousands of children would be taken from the home.
What I said was...that this situation is wrong. It embarasses the girls, it should be stopped.
Why do some see it as normal because its the mother naked in front of daughters? What if it were teenage sons? Would it still be deemed suitable?
You know Nimh, we were raised up in different countries. Total nudity in public is not acceptable here, its not the norm. And for those that want to engage the entire family in nudism, far be it for me to say they are wrong, as long as the ENTIRE FAMILY IS COMFORTABLE WITH IT! But were talking about one woman...and three daughters...and a boyfriend lying in her bed.
Quote:Kids grow up into "uneducated tarts" because they saw their parent naked??
If you didnt sound so passionate I would have thought you were joking. As things stand, you obviously are not. OK, so you have different values and opinions on raising children, fine. I dont like some ways parents raise their children either - I dont like cjhsa taking his kids shooting, for example. But calling the Child protection agency? Having kids taken away from their parents - because they have seen them naked?
Yes, I have a set of values that I will stand by. I have two boys, ages 8 and 12. Yes...they have walked in on me in the bathroom. I don't make a big deal out of it, but I excuse them right on out. I have no need to share my body with my sons at this age. What pride or joy would I gain from allowing my sons to watch me bath, or stand naked while grooming? Thats why I have doors that close....theres a time to draw the line with children and whats acceptable with nudity.
And..again, I never said take the kids away. But if I was the father, you damned skippy I'd have a problem with it. It wouldn't be any different if I were to divorce and my husband took to parading around naked in front of my sons while his GF had her ass piled up in the bed.
Everything has a time and place.
As for the Tart statement...YEA! Nimh, different aspects of a childs life bring on different standards of values/morals on down the road. If a child watches the parents smoke crack, what are the chances that child will grow up to smoke crack, because it was acceptable in the home, so why shouldn't it be acceptable for them to do it also? Mom done it!
So...we have a 9, 10, and a 14 year old girl that has watched mom strut around naked in front of the boyfriend, while they are in the livingroom...what might that bring about for these girls later on down the road? Hell it was acceptable for mom to do it...why not me?
Quote:Again, do you know how many thousands of families go to nudist places on holidays, for example? You are saying all these kids are de facto being "emotionally abused" that way? That those families should all be split up by the authorities? You must not be thinking this through.
No, I do not know how many people enjoy nudist colonies on vacations. Nor do I care...I did not say that those kids would be "de facto" due to it.
But you have to look at it this way. It embarasses the girls. Why? If it is embarassing them, then someone has taught them that nudity isn't acceptable as the norm for everyday life, 24/7. They have been taught that there is a time and place for it. If they weren't taught this, then it wouldn't embarrass them. It would then be acceptable.
And I have thought this through...Thank you.
Quote:Like - unless anyone is proposing cjhsa's kids to be taken away from him too, which would be crazy and which I assume noone is doing - that means that the message here is - a parent taking his kids out shooting is ok or disapprovable but no reason to call child protection - but a parent who's seen naked by her kid - call the cops, have the kid taken away from her?
Well, your trying like hell to belittle me with these statements Nimh, thats fine. I will stand by what I said. Yes, it irks the hell out of me.
Apparently the mother is not completely sane, people in America don't go naked in public, just for the fun of it. This is a cry for attention from the mother, I'm sorry you missed that point. Its humiliating for the girls, sorry you missed that point.
If you humiliate a child enough through their life, they end up screwed up...it happens. Yes...if mom couldn't restrain herself out of respect for the girls feelings, then ya..I'd have her ass...and the boyfriends too.
blacksmithnQuote:You miss the point, I think, nimh. MMS clearly states that if seeing the parent(s) naked embarasses or humiliates the children, then THAT is emotionally abusive. I concur. Furthermore, it's clear that this isn't just an innocent, la-di-da, oh nudity is natural and wondrous, kind of a situation. Boyfriend's in the bed, wearing God know what-- if anything, and mom's parading around starkers. That makes for a sexually charged and potentially very psychologically damaging atmosphere, IMO.
EXACTLY!
And let me throw in something else here.
I know two men that are in their 40's now. It was the norm for mom to go naked in the home in front of them also. MOF, she slept naked with them as teenagers. Is this acceptable behavior of a mother? No....
These two men, also were introduced to dope by their mother, was that acceptable? Nooo
These two men, are so screwed up today, they don't know right from wrong. One has been in and out of prison so many times its crazy. He's also a pedifile, and a major crackhead. The other son, he's crazy and a methhead...Dope and sex rule these two mens lives.
Would thier life be considered normal? If they had been taught values, and some decency...they may not have turned out to be the thugs they are now.