What Are The Chances?

Oh, you are still considered a virgin. A virgin is some one that has not had sexual intercourse and you did not. You may have had "sex" per say, but not intercourse.

And I just wanted to let you know my comment about my friend calling herself a "slut" jokingly of course wasn't directed at all toward you. I just found it a funny story.

Exitmusic,

You apparently came here looking for advice regarding your fear of pregnancy. I'm quite stunned by your reaction to Chai Tea. She was giving you advice that you came here looking for. Yes, you were asking about your chances of being pregnant. But by your questions about possibly getting pregnant in this way and more questions on if BCP could cause a miscarriage would lead many to believe that you are lacking somewhat in the dept. of sex education. We were trying to help you, you sounded quite desperate for advice. I hope you are feeling a lot less stressed now and I hope many of us were able to help you.

I have to say I am a bit offended by what you said about how uneducated I am. I'll have you know that I was 2nd in my class. I know where my terms are with sex and all the stuff that comes with it including religion. This isn't really a matter of sex though. This is a matter of being pregnant.

P.S. I do have sexual education, I've had it since 5th grade.

JPB many people would argue that oral sex is not really sex and that finger **** is not really ****. I'm not sure of the legal definition but I have always understood sex to be the penis entering the vagina.

That's the American version
Oral stimulation ist not intercourse, I am sorry.

Oxford English Dictionary (and most others around the English speaking
world) have this explanation

noun
sexual contact between individuals involving penetration, especially the insertion of a man's erect penis into a woman's vagina culminating in orgasm and the ejaculation of semen.

Well actually the Princeton educational website agrees

"# sexual intercourse: the act of sexual procreation between a man and a woman; the man's penis is inserted into the woman's vagina and excited until orgasm and ejaculation occur"

wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn

Oral sex consists of all those sexual activities that involve the use of the mouth, tongue, etc., to stimulate the sex organs.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Oral_intercourse
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I don't want to change your opinion JPB, I just wanted to let it known, that your definition of intercourse is not everyone's

As in, if a girl is saying "it's not sex, it's just a blowjob", that's when I'm least inclined to make the distinction. In terms of what "sex" connotes there -- risk, crossing boundaries, intimacy, etc. -- it's sex.

It goes the other way too though of course, that your opinion is not everyone's (see JPB's definition).

JPB,

... I agree that oral stimulation, finger activity and sex toys are part of the sexual act, and should not be diminished as not sex related - especially by young teenagers - but it is not considered sexual intercourse.

Merriam-Webster's Medical Dictionary
Main Entry: sexual intercourse
Function: noun
1 : heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis : COITUS
2 : intercourse involving genital contact between individuals other than penetration of the vagina by the penis

Covers both gays and heterosexuals.

Separating the concept of penis in vagina sex from sexual intercourse only increases the concept that anything goes as long you can look a priest in the eyes and tell him you're a virgin.

NickFun wrote:

JPB many people would argue that oral sex is not really sex and that finger **** is not really ****. I'm not sure of the legal definition but I have always understood sex to be the penis entering the vagina.

Exactly what most 8th grade boys say to 14 year old girls to get their weenies licked.

Getting back to the point I was agreeing with in Soz's post. Quibbling over a definition and making distinctions with semantics wouldn't matter to me in the least if adolescent girls weren't being talked into performing sexual acts by overly hormonal boys under the guise of it not really being sex.

In the US, it is not now unusual for 8th grade girls to enter the boy's bathrooms in public schools to provide blow jobs and hand jobs to the boys. Their typical response is, "What's the problem, it's not like it's sex, or anything", when caught and questioned by school personnel. Separating the concept of penis in vagina sex from sexual intercourse only increases the concept that anything goes as long you can look a priest in the eyes and tell him you're a virgin.