Piffka wrote:My stand is, I don't like fundamentalists of any sort, I don't like Pepsi and I especially don't like people who feel they have the right to fuss about what others do with their sex lives. I am so glad I have the means to avoid all three. I wish everybody did.
Hear hear
Now there's something I'd subscribe to. (Which might get me into trouble with Anastasia, who pointed me to this thread, cause she looooves Pepsi.)
Still, the stoning-to-death and gang-rape thing - while not expressing less than utter disgust with it - should be recognized as the strictly regional thing it is, far from Islam-wide. North-Pakistan and Afghanistan. North-Nigeria. Possibly Somalia - female-circumcision country - ? But in the overwhelming majority of the Muslim world, no such things occur or would be condoned - let alone prescribed.
To take the broader context and the more concrete topic of travelling -
Piffka wrote:My desire to not go to a Muslim country doesn't have to do with religion, just the desire to protect myself. I am sure that I would do something to irritate the locals and possibly get myself in trouble.
My mother travelled to Morocco and even Yemen. A female friend of hers holidayed in Jordan - and in the end married a Jordan(ian?) man. My best friend, moreover, lived in Palestine (Bethlehem), working as a volunteer teacher for a year. Her main problem was harrassment at the Israeli roadblockchecks, not harassment by the locals. She also travelled to Morocco several times. A great many Dutchmen go on holidays to the Turkish beaches every year. These are greatly varying trips - from the rather adventurous (Yemen) to where you can get Dutch snacks at bikini beach (that's Turkey). These require varying degrees of willingness to adapt.
Steissd has a valid point about double standards - one should beware of rejecting any call in the West for foreigners to adapt, but defending any Arab call for Westerners to adapt - that would be unfair. The truth is in the middle, of course. Either way you should be able to be yourself. But either way you always adapt some. You can wear traditional Muslim gear in the West, but you won't get any job with it. And with a niqaab on, so a recent case here in Holland, you're not allowed into school (rightfully so, I belief). So there's always limits. If you go to Yemen on holidays, you probably wouldnt strut around in bikini much, but it was no problem for my mother to walk the streets alone and talk to people on the market etc - much less stress than in Sri Lanka, in fact. And in Istanbul or Jakarta, again, you can pretty much go the way you would in Seattle. For foreigners, the standards are actually more lax. (My then-gf was in Istanbul with me sporting a shaven head - she was looked upon in wonder sometimes, but never harassed about it).
So, though I share your sentiments entirely, Piffka, I would warn a little against thinking North-Pakistan represented "Islam". It's a fact of life that if you live anywhere outside North-America and North-Europe, there's "people who feel they have the right to fuss about what others do with their sex lives" ... Whatever the religion, the degree of libertarianism here is rare. But it's a long way from that to stoning or even to 'fundamentalism' - and though the latter is on the rise, it is not actually (yet) the order of the day in most of the Muslim world.