Guys, does this mean anything..

I remember you and your vibrating flies, but I can only just about picture his bum.

mg

I've been mostly single for what seems like forever as well. It hasn't stopped me learning from each time it "doesn't work" and (in a reasonable time) getting back out there and meeting more women.

Well, what do guys look for - don't be put off by the fact that most men will lust after supermodels. I'm sure that Brad/Jude/George/Johnny/Prince W or whoever rocks your boat is a fantasy you enjoy without REALLY expecting it to happen! A woman who is prepared to be herself is always a good start, as it gives a realistic impression of the person who just might be your partner in the relationship. I'm not saying that you should be brutally honest from the outset but false/phoney behaviour is offputting, because there is the fear that it covers up things far worse than a bit of nervousness!

If he's your teacher, then you're clearly interested in one topic which you can discuss together...maybe there will be more.

Don't think that this is the only/last/faintest hope you have - it's just the one which is currently occupying your mind - so the best way to resolve that is to confront it and...

ASK HIM OUT!!!

Crazy talk!!
Its so much easier said than done.

I undersatnd the if it doesnt work, learn from it and try again but its not like its something Ido to begin with.

Im ok with guys liking supermodels, Im not that insecure.I can see why they are fancied.

We had a chat last week.I showd him a project I was working on at home and asked for some advice and he helped out, as he was walking away he said about my project 'I really like that'

My God, all my negativity is really getting me down.
I wouldnt go out with me!!

I promiseto be more positive tonight.

does he have office hours?
talk to him there, where you can have some privacy...

How, if he's at work and Im at work how is that gona happen?

He has his own company, he just gets better and better.

what i mean is, does he have an office at the school?

Dammit, MG, I am the poster child for insecurity and low self-esteem, and I'VE asked a guy out!!! And HE SAID NO.

See, so I got the rejection out of the way for you, so now you can have the good luck all to yourself! Also, I'm proof that a "no" is not a big horrible deal like it seems. I didn't die or nothin'!

Seriously, just make it a "hey, I'm going to go get a coffee, d'you want to come along?" That's not really "asking him out" anyway, it's just a casual coffee thing. Just TRY IT. I want you to have an exciting romance going on so I can live vicariously through you, okay?

THAT is the perfect line....

I'm going out to get some coffee, want to come along?



Gee Whiz, I wish I was single so I could go try that one right now....It's perfect in it's simplicity.

However, if he says "no" and it appears he said it because he's getting ready to do something else, say "Well, maybe some other time, OK? I know this really great place."

THEN, shut your mouth to see what he says.

















then, if he says ok, WHIP OUT your day planner and flip through 5 or 6 pages, say "OK, May 5 looks good....about 6:20?"

NO NO, don't do THAT!!!!

I wish I had thought of that line the last time I wanted to ask someone out. God, how nice and easy.
I've recieved the big N-O a time or two myself, and I'm still here, too. Sure, it's embarassing, but it's also the only way to find out if they are also interested. They may be too nervous to ask you out, too, so there's only one way to be sure. Just suck it up and ask.

My avatar looks like cyphers mom.

I'm so proud of my little kitten!

Awwww! <sniffle> I'm touched! I adored your avatar the instant I saw it, Chai, we look so damn good together...



I thought that line was kinda good myself! It conveys an air of, oh, I'm going to do this anyway, I'm just offhandedly asking if you want to tag along...no big deal either way...I'll use it myself one of these days, just as soon as I send Mr Cypher packing!

He wasnt there, we had a substitute teacher, who was a young lady and absolutely adorable.
I have convinced myself they are going out together and good luck to them coz she is sooo lovely, Id thnk there was something wrong with him if he prefered me to her.

Arg! shut up mg! you are just imagining it. they might not even know each other.
the cofee thing is great! do that! then it appears to be 'on the basis of friendship' not 'oh my god i really really fancy you.'

I would most deifinately do that.
when is your next class?

mg

You're not excused the asking out, yet! What could possibly make you think that Mr Neapolitan and the substitute teacher are together?

Pull yourself together! (I know that's always REALLY useful!)

When's the next chance to practice your new-found coffee-asking line?

KP

Last one is next week.
There may not be coffee making facilities there.

Then take a vacuum flask, just in case.




Oh, and two cups and a spoon.




.....AND some milk.

You can give him some sugar at a later date.

Mwohahahahaha.

I thought they could be together but then I thought they would never see each other as they work alternate days/weekends at this place.But you never know.
She's lovely, like a little mouse, Id gladly step aside.

I wore some top jewelery so it could hopefully catch his eye and he'd realise what good taste I have.It was all wasted, I cant go next week in the same outfit,drat!!

Well, why didn't you ask HER out? :wink:


What do you mean, you'd gladly step aside? pish tosh, you're looking for an chance to step down.

Where the same outfit next week. No one will remember, I assure you.

I may wear the same top but with a skirt if its hot.

Just signed up for extra weeks.Are you semi proud of me?

Yeah, if anything, then they'll think 'material girl always wears really nice clothes'

why dont you suggest a end of course drink or something, or talk to him after about something you find interesting and get a later train.