Debra,
Quote:I don't know, MM. Why wouldn't she hunt him down?
You ask the question,then you answer it...
Quote:The unwed father, in a LOT of cases, is aware of the child but has threatened the mother that he will seek custody if she tries to get support. That might explain why she might wait years before she takes any action because, during those years, she is establishing continuity and stability with the child. Courts generally do not find it in the best interests of the child to remove the child from the only home/ only parent that the child has ever known.
Now,you are intentionally misrepresenting my position.
I am NOT saying that support shouldnt be paid,and I have never said that,nor will I ever say that.
BUT,if a woman gets pregnant,does not tell the father,does not try to tell him,then comes back years later demanding support,then it should be his option about paying.
BTW,do you have any statistics or proof to back this up...
Quote:The unwed father, in a LOT of cases, is aware of the child but has threatened the mother
You and I both know that there are men paying support for adult children,and we both know that there are women that demand support but wont allow the father to see the child.
If you wont let me see my child,then why should I pay support?
If you refused to tell me,for whatever reason,that you were pregnant,then why should I pay support?
If you want child support,tell me about the child,and then PROVE its mine.
If you refuse to do that,you get no support.
If you decide to abort my child,you pay for it yourself.
No govt help,no handouts,no charity,no insurance nothing.
Take it out of your wallet,not anyone else's.