Sat 30 Oct, 2021 08:12 am
Im a guy who likes women, but i find other guys attractive and i do not mind kissing with guys, but i am only sexually attracted to women. What sexuality would you define me as??
@LauFrem,
Whatever you want to call yourself.
@LauFrem,
What izzy said, however you want to define yourself, but I want to comment on your situation.
Finding other guys attractive doesn't say anything about your sexuality. Even if attractive guys turn you on I am not sure it says a whole lot. I feel like that's a fairly human experience. My opinion, and mine only, is if you want to have sex with, or a relationship with a man, that's where different sexualities come into play. There is even an LGBT psychologist that researchers "straight men that have sex with men" and believes that the reason for having sex with men has more to do with sexuality. It's pretty controversial, but it's pretty interesting.
Labels are tough. I mean, you could be bisexual & heteroromantic, or straight with bi-tendencies, or heteroflexible. The thing is, you live your life as a straight man and I don't see a problem identifying as that.
From my experience, I've discovered that one's sexuality is indicated by what personality type and body type they are attracted to, nothing more and nothing less.
I've been a heterosexual male my entire life, but I've still done things out of an attraction to certain sexual organs exclusive to the male body. But this doesn't prove I was gay or bi, it just means I was attracted to that sexual organ for some psychological reasons/reasons, which weren't necessarily gay or bi reasons...they were not understood by me at the time, but they worked as sexual fetishes. They helped me concentrate on the visual scenario of a women receiving penis, which is something I was always attracted to when watching porn like any straight guy is.
I wasn't attracted to the penis because of gayness or bisexuality, I was attracted to it and let it be used on me, because that helped me imagine a sexual fetish of mine, one I didn't understand well. What made me hard from the fetish? It making me imagine a hot women being given penis.
When I received the penis, I was not seeing myself as a women or identifying as one, I was simply seeing myself as a heterosexual male who wanted to use an odd method to be able to concentrate on the visual idea of a hot women taking penis. my brain essentially was forcing me to instantaneously imagine a hot women taking a penis whenever I was taking the penis, because it gave me the idea of male feminization, which then oddly gave me the idea of a typical female taking penis. Of course, I resorted to this method because if I hadn't, I wouldn't be able to concentrate on the visual idea of a women taking penis, due to my own neurological issues, which I was well aware of at the time.
I was pretty much running a mad expirement, not to discover my sexuality, but to discover my own psychology through sexual fetishes that I didn't understand the triggers behind until much after they occured in the bedroom. So I only resorted to the method in question because I needed it to understand my own psychology outside of the bedroom, not because of any supposed self feminization or misunderstanding of my own sexuality.
Looking back on it ever since then, I have shuddered at those acts of mine, and have been on the verge of vomiting thinking about them. Thats because as I said, I am truly heterosexual and always have been, but I didn't take the time to prevent those acts from happening. Does this mean these acts tormented me psychologically to some degree when I did them? Yes, yes they did.