Being a Teenager With a Fetish is Possibly the Most Difficult Thing I Have Ever Had to Deal With.

Being A Teenager With A Fetish Is Possibly The Most Difficult Thing I’ve Ever Had to Deal With...

And that's saying something, my life hasn't exactly been cake. Not going to elaborate, as that would sound like whining and may incite a pity-party, but let's just say I've had to grow up very, very fast, and other people my age have the stupidest problems on the grand scale of things. *rolls eyes*

But I just want to say to all you adults, those of us kids that are aware of those aspects of our sexuality, have a hard existence to make on a day-to-day basis. I personally don't abstain from sex, although I do take the proper precautions, I have pills and always use a condom to prevent STDs. But as teenagers, our hormones rage something fierce. That means that undeniably, sex is on our minds. All. The. Time. And when part of that is a deviant sexual preference, it can make the yearnings for it increasingly hard to deal with knowing that our peers are not the same way.

So we think about sex, and we talk about it, we engage in it, we sometimes do risky things concerning it. (Not myself... But others I know.) But for someone like myself and some of my friends, we can't really add to the conversation when our regular friends are talking. It's annoying. It's frustrating. It's all around a pain in the ass, excuse my language.

My personal fetish, while a common one, is not something anyone wants to come out about. So you like leather? You can buy leather pants at a clothing store. Wear them around to entice your partner and take things from there in the bedroom. So you have a foot fetish? Make part of your foreplay a foot massage. But you like to be spanked? That's a taboo. Ever since the whole deal with taking spanking out of schools, and even before then, it has been a taboo to hit your kids. With good reason, too. Nobody wants to see it go to a length where it's abuse! But that can be applied to so many other things, such as sheltering your kids to the point where they find it hard to get used to adult life at all when they're eighteen. Or, conversely, teaching your children so much about the real world that they're terribly jaded to it. There are other examples that I can't pull off the top of my head, too.

Anyway, since spanking is such a taboo in the more innocent spectrum of it, it automatically spills over to adult activities too. I have friends online that have been married for years and still don't tell their partner of their fetish for fear it will revile and repulse them.

What I'm saying here is, kids like me don't have any outlet. And even when we're presented with the opportunity for sex itself, it's even harder to try and talk to our partners about exactly what we want from the experience. Teenagers are certainly more judgmental than adults, and there's always that fear that he'll tell his friends or something equally as awful. Any 'scandalous' secret or tidbit needs to be hidden completely or it'll spread to all the wrong circles like wildfire.

What do you think about this subject? I want people's opinions and insights. Just please no comments like 'you're too young to be having sex' or the like. Truthfully, these days, if you don't know for a fact that a teenager is celibate, then it's usually safe to assume they're banging like bunnies. Where I come from, anyway.

--Z