I had a thought while dozing before.
What Deb stated as confident, for instance the chimps, I see in my mind as Capable and Competent.
I looked up the definition for all three.
having the ability, fitness, or quality necessary to do or achieve a specified thing.
having the necessary ability, knowledge, or skill to do something successfully.
feeling or showing confidence in oneself; self-assured.
the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.
BTW, self assurance apparantly means the same as competent and capable.
I am certainly Capable and Competent. That includes if I don't know how to do something, I'm capable of getting someone else to do it, and paying them, or if offered help by a friend, taking it.
I absolutely don't see people using the word Confident in the way defined on a day to day basis.
Lately (on tiktok for instance) it seems to be reserved in the comments section for women who are plus size and Dare to wear clothes who are supposed to be reserved for women under a certain size. Or doing something like dancing, or God forbid, being sexual.
"You GO queen! You're so confident!" or worse, "You're so brave!"
That's another ******* thing people are all the time now. BRAVE!
Oh. And deserving. We all deserve some damn thing.
Like those commercials that tell us we Deserve to have a stronger OTC medicine to take care of our headache?
Well what if you went out and got blotto last night and caused all kinds of trouble, hurt feelings, and were generally a douchebag?
I think you deserve every second of that sick hangover you now have. Especially if you knew if was going to end up like that.
Maybe it's just semantics, but I see the chimp mother and offspring as really competent and capable members of their group, especially because they didn't make a big fuss over it.