@Setanta,
Most people are oblivious.
What we need is a good purging by lions and tigers and bears.
That grocery store experience from the other day?
There was one woman who was on top of things. I had walked up to the prepared bags of salad and had to look for a second for the kind I liked. As I was straightening up, a voice said “right behind ya” and as I turned my head she was already heading away.
From spending time in Mexico, I see just how unobservant Americans are, and how we require these big grand gestures and overblown expressions to communicate.
Down there, when driving, there isn’t all this wild hand waving from drivers to let the other person in. People don’t grin like monkeys at each other when they meet or pass on the street.
Mostly it’s small nods of the head to “go ahead” or “thanks” or “nice day” as you pass.
I never worry someone hasn’t seen me when I’m driving. They use their peripheral vision a lot. Both drivers and pedestrians are expected to know what’s going on around them. Even really little kinds.
Something you never see are adults talking to children like “Look at this! Look at this! Do you see that! Look!” Or being told/asked to do something multiple times.
Also refreshing is that no one really pays much attention to children that aren’t theirs. So the children don’t gain this false sense of importance.
Now this is the interior. I don’t know how it is around the border. I do know though that Mexicans that move to the US many times start treating their kids like we do, and they quickly turn into screaming brats.
Heh. Last trip there I was driving in Cento with my friend. We were in the usual 15 mph speed that the narrow streets and cobblestones require. This little girl, maybe 4, was grandly passed off about something. Her faced was scrunched and there were tears, but her mouth was closed. Her mother was looking at something, and then she just started walking again. Little girl just followed. Still mad, but she was learning the lesson of dealing with her own emotions, and not making it the problems of anyone within hearing distance.
You never hear kids acting up really. Except for tiny babies of course. But mother’s, fathers and older siblings are always holding the babies in their arms, so crying doesn’t last long.
I think a big part of it may be diet. Lots of fruit and juices being eaten all over. No fast food really, and candy and chips are a treat.
In normal times, women will great other women, and men and women great each other with a kiss to the check. Men do it to with other men, if they are family. It’s a quiet subtle dance.