Phobia of her

No, you're not overreacting. You honestly think she's a whore.

Own it. And be done. She doesn't need a person in her life that will always think she's not worthy of their love and devotion.

Lol

I never once said that !
I basically don’t want any other guys “material” spread to my body.

It's been 15 years.

I'm pretty sure she's showered since then.



You do have to recognize exactly what you're saying. She's had sex. Sex with men. And you don't like it to the point of telling her that she's had way too much sex for YOU to be comfortable with. That's the truth. All because you don't actually say the words doesn't mean that you don't feel that all the way into your bones. You won't forget. You won't forgive. It will always be there, in your head, that she's had sex with multiple people. In your mind, that's a whore and you cannot be with someone like that.

Is that not a fair assessment?

Out side of the nervous system, every cell in the body is replaced every seven years. Some are much quicker. Now we only have to worry about the most recent seven.

Its not about the cells, or even her. He’s feeling humiliated (maybe just in his head)

Drop this girl. She will never understand your mindset.

You are living in the past. Your “crush” is not a virgin or even on the same par as you , sexually. Guys like you can’t get past things like this.

Do everyone a favor and end it now.

Wow !

I was looking for advice , not to be hated !

How many of you are women that’s replying to me ?

No, I think he's telling you that you don't deserve her.

But are you Pure?......doesn't sound like it to me.

Nobody hates you, some of us (I think) don't want you to make another persons life miserable. Look for someone who will forgive you for your faults.

Problem solved.

Except for one thing, you've already touched her.

Yeah! Cum on, cum on, cum on, cum on
Don't touch me, babe
Can't you see you're caked in DNA?
Where was that penis that you made?
Why won't you tell, I'm so afraid?
Where was that penis that you laid?

I ain't gunna love you
Till the heavens start the rain
I ain't gunna love you
Till the rain removes the stain of you for I

Yeah! Cum on, cum on, cum on, cum on
Don't touch me, babe
Can't you see you're caked in DNA?
Where was that penis that you made?
Why won't you tell, I'm so afraid?
Where was that penis that you laid?

To answer your 2nd question first, about half & half. What's amazing about that is no matter the sex of the people responding to you, is it's all the same advice.

It seems that you think that women would be forced to respond in one way and men the other. It truly must come as a shock that on this forum, you are seen as the same, regardless of who is responding.

Basic common courtesy and respect isn't a gendered concept, it's a human concept. You've shown everyone on this forum how judgmental you are, how inflexibility in relationships can harm, and how inequities still exist for women.

I think anyone who has seen my responses to you can actually see how I've bent certain rules that I wouldn't normally afford to women. That's because as a woman, I've been taught to expect your point of view as par for the course. Sexual identity is not seen as equal as it is for men. Three sexual partners for a man at your age is seen as normal, more than that for a woman is not acceptable.

It's not a phobia you're working with, it's the sense of entitlement you're working for.

Having said that, nobody actually hates you. What they hate is the carnage of the concept you leave behind.

You used this person. A woman who doesn't deserve your scorn, your judgement or your love.

Maybe, just maybe, you'll think about that.

hahah

I haven’t used her for anything, we’ve talked, nothing more... she can find what she’s seeking elsewhere, as so will I.

The worst of it is I’ve wanted her for years, only to let my own self conscious destroy that.

I have issues, I know that.
Anyway, thanks for your help and input.

Of course you used her. You used her as an emotional punching bag to dump your moral superiority squarely on her. You deliberately set out to tell her exactly what you thought about her - - and you did so with glee. You've wanted to do it for so long and now that moment is finally here.



You really don't understand what the worst part actually is. The worst part is you won't even acknowledge yourself acting with such malicious intent.

Moral superior? What ?

I didn’t degrade or use anyone as a punching bag, I simply stated that I couldn’t get past some things, we will remain friends...

I didn’t do anything with glee at all.

We can’t be a couple, and that’s that.

With your mindset you don't deserve a woman and I hope you won't get one either. Go and masturbate for the rest of your life....and please don't forget to sanitize your hands later on!

I don't particularly enjoy oral sex either. It's a bit of an aquired taste, it seems, and I never aquired it.

If you don't like it, just don't do it...

But if she's as fun as you say she is, i strongly recommend you stop asking yourself stupid questions and enjoy the ride, for what it lasts. Life is short. Funny women are the best.

Update on situation

We are still together, we live our lives together as a normal couple but we sleep in separate beds and have never engaged in any sexual activity.

So, basically, you're roommates. You have an asexual partnership. Well, if you're both happy with that, then good.

It's both normal to want to have oral sex with your partner and not to want to. Different people are into different things. Just because you like someone, it doesn't mean that you would necessarily want to have oral sex with them. If you do not wish to do this sort of thing, don't do it. It shouldn't make her want to leave you just because you didn't have oral sex with her. Do what makes you feel comfortable. I'm a girl and I don't think I'm really into oral sex either.