Making the First Move? / Neverending Advice & Hints....

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sozobe,

You are right.

Actually I don't do the club scene and all that anymore.

But just speaking of coffee shops, hobbies, activity clubs, whatever, in all seriousness (sorry I joked above)--
even in these more "serious places" to meet people, its all very subtle...the language of the smiles...

thats what I really think is fascinating about what I see in this thread:

a smile can mean 1000 different things. No wonder no one knew what Mona Lisa was smiling about.

I was just trying to examine the subtle "come hither" language you see in every day life (not clubs & playas)--

its fairly subtle, a lot of times

us guys need you to have like a red light or green light on your forhead, and you could push a button and you'd have the correct one light up for us, that would be great!

hmmm...ebay here i come!

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ehBeth wrote:

Yer 'sposed to be takin' yer medicine and goin' to bed with them little doggies . . .

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To put it another way, there is NO 100% guaranteed way to know anything by physical signals alone. Ask, if you want to. Probably won't go over too well.

Since that's an impossibility, main advice is to be friendly, have fun, and see where connections develop... or don't. And by that I mean conversations, laughing, talking, "can I have your phone number," "We should get together sometime" connections, not "What does that blink mean???"

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sozobe wrote:

Quick rant:

I know all of these guys who ask about getting their game on and being a playa and how to get a girl's attention and yadda yadda yadda... And then those very same guys are like, "All the women I meet are flighty/ dumb/ materialistic/ no sense of humor/ fragile self-esteem/ boring/..." Maybe it's because that's the type you're selecting for with your "playa" methods!!

Ahem.

(Yes, I know a lot of those guys.)

This is exactly right.... My single guy friends go to hipster bars and come home bitching about hipster chicks.

My single female friends go to the same bars and bitch about my male friends.

I don't claim to be an expert, but it ain't rocket science.

Choose your hunting ground wisely.

And use enough gun. ( To paraphrase Robert Ruark)

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sozobe wrote:

To put it another way, there is NO 100% guaranteed way to know anything by physical signals alone. Ask, if you want to. Probably won't go over too well.
... "What does that blink mean???"

"Hi, I'm doing research and I just wondered what that blink meant? Would you mind filling out this brief survey?"

But seriously sozobe--you are right on I think. I think if a guy used your advice, he'd be doing well.

I guess the part that confused me is some girls will really just smile at you so much, but they got a boyfriend or something and they don't want to talk to you. Then others hardly smile or don't smile at all! even and much later you'll somehow hookup and they'll say:

"oh I always really liked you but I would NEVER smile at you in any way like that..."

so you just never know i guess.

best to approach every damn one of 'em you might be remotely interested in, smile or no smile, and let the chips fall where they may! Twisted Evil

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LionTamerX wrote:

And use enough gun. ( To paraphrase Robert Ruark)

Expand on this please?

Nuclear weapons?

Money?

Be the dominant mammal?

Charm?

watchoo talkin bout?

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You got it LionTamer. Use enough gun. And remember, some canny predators do very well staking out the watering holes.

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If i am not mistaken, i believe that it has been observed in this thread more than once that there is a certain irony in those who stake out the watering hole and complain of the taste of antelope . . .

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well when you been in the desert, most any watering hole looks pretty good...

but then when you're under a pristine waterfall, then we get finicky...

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From "How to be a Surviving Member of a Horror Movie":

"If you're going to shoot something, in the immortal words of Robert Ruark - African big game hunter, "USE ENOUGH GUN," or preferably a chain gun."

Now why the hell did the first thing I had to find on it be a friggin HORROR MOVIE??? Crying or Very sad

So you sayin I should be ready to go in strong: Kill or be killed?

God why you all have to speak cryptic to me???

I'm here on A2K to Ask a Friggn EXPERT! :wink:

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There are no experts when it comes to love, m'dear.

Just talented amateurs. Wink

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extra medium wrote:

LionTamerX wrote:

And use enough gun. ( To paraphrase Robert Ruark)

Expand on this please?

Nuclear weapons?

Money?

Be the dominant mammal?

Charm?

watchoo talkin bout?

I would say that charm will get you good results sometimes...
So will money, to a lesser degree.

I guess what I'm trying to say, is work on you.
And try and visualise the girl of your dreams.
Then, try and think about where this superior female might spend time.
Then go to this place armed with things to talk about.
Mutual interests and such.
Don't be a jerk.
Don't be a playa.
Be yourself.
(Your self is the gun.)

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nice, X--thanks.

I see you still have your gun in your hands, ready

Do you hold onto the gun even after you make the kill? :wink:

(isn't it funny how the males here went right into the hunting analogy?) :wink:

ladies, do you ever feel hunted?

or ladies, do you ever feel like the hunter in this thing?

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Setanta wrote:

If i am not mistaken, i believe that it has been observed in this thread more than once that there is a certain irony in those who stake out the watering hole and complain of the taste of antelope . . .

My learned brother, you are oh so wise.

I really am trying to be helpful, yet my nature betrays me.

(I did not kill said antelope...it came in the mail.)

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Setanta wrote:

If i am not mistaken, i believe that it has been observed in this thread more than once that there is a certain irony in those who stake out the watering hole and complain of the taste of antelope . . .

the hell of it is:

often a meal tastes really good, once or twice or even for a week.

but one only realizes years later that is better to build a diet on vegetables, fruit, grain instead of ice cream and candy

ice cream and candy tastes great for a day or so...

pizza tastes great for 3-4 days

ironic that vegetables taste the worst for one time, but best over months and years...especially if you add a lot of spice

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I have been both the hunter and the hunted. Both can be fun.

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Eva wrote:

There are no experts when it comes to love, m'dear.

Just talented amateurs.

Well put, Eva.

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So getting back to my original question and to try to crystallize it:

I guess there really is no consensus as to how to know for sure if the girl is just smiling "hi" or smiling "come hither" --- just gotta go with it and take a chance if you feel it...is that it?

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