Terry,
Terry wrote:Why does it not occur to you that the problem here is not how Muslim women dress, but how Muslim men behave?
Why do you suppose that Muslim men are so lacking in self-control that the sight of an exposed leg would inflame them
Certainly, the man has a share of responsibility in whether a rape, teasing or molestation happens or not. But, the woman who exposes her body is the major factor.
Terry wrote:while most Western men are able to behave appropriately even when confronted with beaches full of bikini-clad young ladies?
Are you sure? The highest rape rates are in the west. Here is an example from the U.S:
American Rape Statistics
In the "Islamic" countries, you'll find much lower rates. When Islam was rightly implemented (in the time of the prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and the guided leaders of Islam), adultery rate was near zero per cent.
Terry wrote:Just out of curiousity, will virile male companions be provided for devout Muslim women in Paradise, whose husbands are busy flirting with virgins?
A verse from the Holy Qur'an (which is the word of God almighty) is sufficient to answer your query: Almighty God (Allah in Arabic) says:
"there will be there all that the souls could desire, all that their ayes could delight in: and ye shall abide therein" [Holy Qur'an 43:71]
It means that a woman (or a man) in the Paradise will have all what she wants.
Terry wrote:It was degradation to treat women as household slaves
Household slaves? No, that's not the role of a Muslim woman. In Islam, the woman in her house is the main builder of the society. When she covers her husband with care, compassion and love, she helps him to be so successful in his job and responsibility; It is well known that "Behind every successful man, there is a woman".
By raising her children correctly, the mother carefully constructs future generations.
Terry wrote:who could be abused with impunity by their fathers/husbands
I know about a religion which calls for husbands to treat their wives in the kindest of ways, that is ISLAM. God (Allah in Arabic) says:
"live with them (wives) on a footing of kindness and equity" [Holy Qur'an 4:19]
I know about a religion which considers the best of men those who love and care about their wives, and that is ISLAM. "The best of you are the kindest to their wives and I am your best to mine", is a teaching by prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).
flushd,
Thank you for your valuable remarks and important question.
flushd wrote:In a way I understand why Muslims would find Western women's dress to be outrageous and degrading - sometimes it is. Often it is.
That is absolutely true.
flushd wrote:However, I would much prefer to have the choices that West presents (as a woman). If I choose to wear a burka here (is that the correct name for that garment?), I can do so. If I choose to wear a bra and a skirt, I can do that as well.
I don't know in which country you live. But in France - a main western society- head scarves (not even burkas) are forbidden in schools. There are call in other western countries to follow the (bad) footsteps of Jacques Chirac.
PS: What an honor for a french Muslim girl to scare a 'great' country only with a piece of clothing on her head!
flushd wrote:What are the teaching in regards to raising children? Is there a strict code on 'how to raise a good child'?
From the little knowledge that I have:
1) The suckling of the baby should be natural (from the breast of the mother) and should last two years. It helps to build the child physically as well as psychologically.
2) The education of the child should be based on ethics and religion (Islam).
3) The parents should help their child acquire knowledge (through studying) which will be beneficial for him/her in this life and in the Hereafter.
4) Islam says your child must be allowed to play until 7 (years of age), be taught things for life from 7 - 14 and be your friend from 14 - 21.
flushd wrote:I have a hard time understanding the Koran by myself; it is like wading through a different language.
I agree with you sister, the translations of the Holy Qur'an do not reflect 100% the pure and extraordinary Arabic text. Nevertheless, this translation
Translation of the Qur'an, along with authentic Ahadiths (sayings of prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him)), books and websites reflecting true Islamic teachings, will be of valuable help to you.
And Allah knows best.