Re: Older men and younger women.
Jack Webbs wrote:There is nothing new here. I believe most guys, especially older divorced guys find younger women far more appealing than ones appropriate for their age.
Everyone is different and there are any number of reasons why it is possible for a relationship that includes a huge age disparity to work out. Normally it involves money. If a guy has enough money it is not hard at all to find a woman to marry that is 20-25 years his senior.
The main problem I have experienced is one similar one experiences having a lovely wife that just happens to be a member of a family of people you really don't want to have anything to do with. In the case of the divorced women I have dated inevitably their relations as well as some of their friends are jackasses or the woman finds my friends to be the same way to her.
In a recent bad experience my lady friend and I were standing in a theatre lobby with another couple during an intermission. I have known the other guy for more than 40 years. While I was absent, having excused myself to use the mens room he made an off color remark to my lady friend. This in spite of the fact it was the first time they had met.
No fuss was made of it for the remainder of the evening but when my lady friend and I bid the couple goodnight to their car in the driveway, as soon as they pulled out, my lady friend continued to her car, said "Goodnight" and drove off. I have not heard from her since. She had emphasized that she preferred our relationship to be as "friends" to begin with because of our age difference. She is 45 and I am 68.
When she drove off it was as if the light switch had been turned off. I felt very bad the whole week, especially that night and the next day.
Yesterday I bought the movie "Something's Got to Give" with Jack Nicholson and Diane Keaton. I enjoyed it but at the same time there were some parts in that movie that had a very dark side to them and they made me feel very uncomfortable. They made me realize how old I really am. They made me feel like an idiot as well as a dirty old man.
I am now trying to decide whether to still keep trying or resign myself to a hermit-like existence and just go deeper into my reading and writing and forget about spending the rest of my nights in bed with Diane Keaton or a woman even younger like the one I took to see "Gypsy" last Saturday Evening.
Advice anyone? :wink:
Jack me boy, play the part!
All of the below are ASAP
- 2 hours in the gym per day minimum, extra focus on sagging butt and abs etc.
- See a plastic surgeon and cosmetologist.
- If you have hair loss get a transplant or shave it all off
- If you are keeping your hair see a really good hair stylist.
- Take modern dance lessons minimum once a week daily practice.
- Take yoga lessons minimum once a week daily practice.
- Start a super careful diet, no crappy old fart food, just super healthy clean basics.
- Throw out all clothing older than three years, and buy a new modern stylish wardrobe - yes including socks and shoes!
- Get broad knowledge of pop culture.
- Never, never use the phase "I used to" or "when I was".
- Always talk in the present or future tense and never talk about any events older than 15 year, if she does simply listen but feign ignorance.
- Learn how to truly please a woman in and out of bed, don't give this crap that you know everything already!
- Surround yourself with younger people by whatever means necessary.
- Can the philosophical, introspective, sensitive crap and learn how to be jovial and hearty and direct and zippy.
- If you have one those old fart's cars sell it and get a Miata.
- Get a Chow Chow (babe magnet deluxe).
