@revelette1,
Democracy is a game of poker. That is how the system works. We as a society have competing ideas about values and policy. Government works by letting different sides fight it out, each using the power it has to push for their values... and there is a peaceful way of resolving the battle lines.
Democracy is a designed to be an adversarial system... where one side makes gains and the other side takes losses. This is at the core of the system, and there is no other way.
I, as an American voter and part of this system of Democracy, do not want to have a border wall. I believe that the Southern Wall is more than "wasteful". It is, to me, a symbol of hatred, and fear and nationalism.
It is not just the $50 billion dollars (which is my money by the way). It is a matter of what kind of country I want to be a part of.
I accept that this is my subjective opinion, and that other Americans disagree with me. I want my side to use its political power to push back against the wall.
Don't fetishize compromise. Compromise is one possible strategy, and sometime it is appropriate. Democracy as an adversarial system allows us to battle, and when neither side can gain... sure compromise often works out well. There are two reasons to compromise; either you are getting something of greater value to your side, or you have accepted defeat and want to minimize the damage to your side.
But when your side has the advantage in fight, and the issue is important to you, there is no reason to compromise. (Sure, the Democrats have to look like they are willing to compromise... but that is just part of the strategy).
If one side is fighting for every inch of territory to advance its values and gain political power, and the other side is looking for compromise... the system of democracy simply stops working.