ossobuco wrote:
KelticW, I am something of a fan of yours, but do you mean to say no western woman cannot , er, just mate, when she wants to?
Thanks, I'm a fan of yours, too.
Ossobuco, I think the use of the term "slag" here is probably an indicator of the author's, (and my) total disgust with the activity around Diana.
It is not uncommon for people to meet others outside of marriage and have affairs. Not the ideal thing, of course, but not uncommon. And I normally don't judge this.
However, my objections to the behavior of this whole business is that Diana was wooed as a 19 year old, by a fellow who had a thing going on with someone else at the time and had no intention of ending it. It is one thing when the bloom goes off the rose of marriage and people start looking elsewhere. Here, Diana had no real chance right from the beginning. Seems to me when a man marries a woman, whatever else happens, he owes her the
chance to make it work the ideal way. Not Charles.
Couple this with the ages of the people involved. Diana was 19. Charles and Camilla were well over 30. There is something really ugly about two older people sneering together while the young, unknowing one is led to a situation that they both think she is trapped in and can do nothing about.
Add to the fact that the Queen worried about Diana's extreme popularity with the people. Probably one of the reasons the Queen worried was that if Charles and Camilla's affair became public, the monarchy might lose popularity because the people favored Diana. So to put her in her place, the Queen ostracized her. Did Charles defend his wife? No. Why should he? Part of the reason the Queen was dumping on Diana was to prevent her from getting the upper hand in any conflict between Diana and Charles about Camilla.
And when Diana fell victim to post-partum depression, the family used that as an excuse to dump on her further. In the monarchy world, popularity is power, (that kind of is their present reason for being, isn't it?) and Diana's potential power was enormous.
All this happened, or started happening, to a 19 year old. The function of the older is to teach the younger. Everywhere Diana looked, there was an older, more experienced person who was looking to bring her down one way or the other. An ugly situation, performed by the same family which offered up Diana and Charles as the model of elegant and gracious living.
So that is the reason the word slag was used here. It's not that anyone means to say that woman involved in a relationship outside of marriage can be put down by anyone who feels like it. I suppose it could be said that Camilla's actions were not the worst or most vicious of the bunch. But she was involved in it, and I think people such as the author of this thread was searching for a word to express his disgust with the whole bunch of them.
For that matter, saying that a man has "married his slag" is hardly complimentary to the man, either.