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Big day tomorrow. Family Court at 9.45am...

 
 
Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 03:00 am
Not too many of you folks will know that I have some been in the middle of a year-long battle with my ex-wife over our children.

I'm bringing this up, NOT because I want a little TLC, but because tomorrow I am going to front up at the Family Court of Australia to get an order in the matter of my youngest daughter.

For all the legal-eagles in A2K I am a 'self-represented litigant' which makes me the butt of that eternal joke,

'Anyone who represents himself has a fool for a client'



Fortunately, the fear of being seen as an idiot is far outweighed by the fear of not being able to see my daughter. And there have been humiliations aplenty on this path.....
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Mr Stillwater
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 03:03 am
How do you get to this point? Easy, just marry into a family with money and an aversion to bad publicity. I am not sure how much my father-in-law has manage to spend on this exercise, but it must be in the tens of thousands already.

Lawdy. If I had only praised his golf handicap more frequently and NOT chewed out his daughter I would be sitting pretty..........










..........NOT!!!!
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Mr Stillwater
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 03:11 am
Back to the subject at hand.


Suffice to say, my ex-wife has stopped me from seeing the 3 1/2 year old fruit of her 'fling' with another fellow. This is the same baby she bought home from hospital without bothering to mention that vital bit of information - I wonder why?

Now that we are less than friends (ie litigants) this little bit of information has been bandied around to the detriment of the child. She has to stay at home with Mum whilst her older sisters are allowed to have time with 'Daddy' - she's not too happy about this. And I am damn fond of her. She's a healthy, bright, happy little girl and I miss her greatly*.






*I miss all my children, if the truth be known. Who the f*ck wouldn't?
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Mr Stillwater
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 03:18 am
So, I made the only application I have made to the Family Court. And I did it on her behalf, because I truely think that this situation sucks and that if I don't we (her and me) are going to get the very short end of the stick.

My wife's solicitors wrote to tell me that I don't have a hope and they are going to get costs. I told them that I'm not put off by this and that we're going ahead with the action*. I'm not going to bullsh*t you all, I am worried/concerned/scared, but there are times that you have to do things because YOU JUST HAVE TO!







*They didn't manage to get it called off today, so I assume that there's no legal impediment.
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Mr Stillwater
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 03:21 am
I'll let you lot know of the outcome. You can feel free to sent sympathy, solidarity, anything but those damn H*U*G*G*S*S!! I still have the bunny fluff all over my Polartec top Deb!!!
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Phoenix32890
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 05:32 am
I think that you are doing a wonderful thing. I also think that your ex-wife has s--- for brains. You are NOT this child's biological father, yet you want a relationship with her. If I were anywhere within hitting distance of the ex, I smack this stupid broad around, and try to knock some sense into her.

Good luck! ( And not a hug in sight!)
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dlowan
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 05:39 am
Break a leg!

Oh - and a damned bunny hug - so THERE!!!!!


http://www.astralcastle.com/images/pd/bunnyh.jpg
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squinney
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 06:01 am
What a guy! I'll be pulling for you today. You're doing the right thing. Everyone but her gets to go see Daddy? Too much for a 3 year old to understand. Not too much for a grown woman. Since this was a "fling" I assume the 3 yo doesn't see her biological father. For you to step to the plate is admiral.

Go get em', Tiger!
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msolga
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 06:11 am
How did it go, Stilly?
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Bekaboo
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 07:30 am
Good luck - hope it goes ok xxx
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DrewDad
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 07:36 am
Good luck there, Still.

<Manfullly slaps Mr. Stillwater on the shoulder.>
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Phoenix32890
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 07:43 am
No matter how it worked out, you gave it your best shot. You should be proud of yourself!
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Noddy24
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 08:57 am
Hold your dominion.
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JPB
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 09:43 am
Good for you, Still. I admire your willingness to recognize the innocense of a child and to put your position on the line in trying to do something about it. I hope it goes well.

No hugs, but lots of best wishes.
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Letty
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 09:48 am
Interested in the outcome, Stilly.
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Debra Law
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 10:23 am
Mr Stillwater wrote:
Suffice to say, my ex-wife has stopped me from seeing the 3 1/2 year old fruit of her 'fling' with another fellow. This is the same baby she bought home from hospital without bothering to mention that vital bit of information - I wonder why?


The genetic (biological) father is not always the same as the legal father. I assume that the law in New South Wales contains a presumption that the husband is the legal father of any child born during marriage.

In most (if not all) states in the United States, the only people who have standing to rebut that presumption are the wife/mother and husband/legal father . . . and there is usually a statute of limitations. (E.g., if an action to rebut the presumption is not brought within x years from the time of the child's birth, the action is barred forever.)

What is the statute of limitations where you live?
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boomerang
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 10:31 am
I'm just lining up behind Phoenix for round two of smack this stupid broad around, knock some sense into her.

I really hope all went well for your sake and for this little girl's sake.
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sozobe
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 10:38 am
Oh man Stilly. Fingers crossed for ya. Deb raises an interesting point, hope you get a good judge who sees through their bluster.
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Tenoch
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 10:52 am
We're all rootin for ya.!!
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CalamityJane
 
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Reply Mon 28 Feb, 2005 11:08 am
Yes we do!
Good things come to good people, and I keep my fingers
crossed for you Stilly. I trust the judge is ruling in favor
of the child.

Good luck today!
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