Why would he say this
Sad to say there is no easy way of leaving someone. However, with the violent behavior on his part, I would deffinatly go to an abuse center (what I did and they can help you get a restraining order on him, so if he does try to contact you (which he may) you can have protection. Then I would also check with them and social services for counciling. You see some women who are abused think it's their fault and try to patch things up. BIG MISTAKE!!! As I see it you could possibly be one of them, as you are worried more about the anniversary, his birthday coming up. Are they so important that you are a reason to celebrate and start having your own anniversary,"THE DAY YOUR LIFE CHANGED FOR THE BETTER
". It sounds as if he has the same problem my ex has. And if he seeked counciling and if that is true, they give them medication, but because of the reaction they get from the medication, a majority refuse to take their medication. Also, work on you, if you can afford to take some community classes that will help you prepare yourself for the lucky guy who WILL LOVE YOU without the violence. Take cooking classes, sewing classes or even go back to school and prepare yourself for a
bigger and brighter things. Take care and there are some good guys out there!