Frank, I agree that a lot of these guys can't be open about it but some women have told their man that they don't care and still, the men are lying and sneaking around.
Not sure if I understand that...unless it comes under the heading of "The guy is notl listening to the words...but to the music."
If that actually is a problem with some guys...they have got serious issues to deal with. But I suspect that truly is not something that happens often.
That is where the problem is.
I suspect that is not where the problem is. I suspect that women have as much difficulty identifying with male sexual instincts as men often do with identifying with female maternal instincts.
But...we may have to agree to disagree on this point.
[/quote]If I say to my husband that he can whack it whenever he feels like it, I'd expect him to be like "ok!" not say, "I don't do that", and catch him later.[/quote]
"Porn" is a different problem from "wacking it."
EVERY GUY IS GONNA WACK IT FROM TIME TO TIME.
Not every guy is gonna veiw porn. (Damn near every one...but not every one.)
Any woman who has a problem with her man occasionally mastubating is simply living in a make-believe world. There is no solution for her problem other than trying to get her to wake up.
Or at least, that is my opinion.