well so far so good another week draws to a close and i think we may winning our battle ....things seem good...no thanks to people on here..i may have stumbled across this site but THANK YOU ,YOUR THE BEST FOLKS!
no thanks or thanks? I take that as thanks. I am not sure if I posted or not, but I've been following.
Wishing you well...
ossobuco wrote:no thanks or thanks? I take that as thanks. I am not sure if I posted or not, but I've been following.
Wishing you well...
A BIG MASSIVE THANKS I MEANT
another week goes by and were still doing good folks....
Good...keep it steady...Christmas can be trying.
christmas will be hard for it will be her 1st christmas without her father,but i can only be there for her and her muother.
another week another sucess...........
my advice to people who have things similar to me is hang in ,dont do nothing rash and if you think your partners worth fighting for ...FIGHT!!!
and take on board what the guys/gals on here say.
still doing good ,she said shes so glad i fought for her...but she wont let me buy her a rampant rabbit for xmas tho lol
been keping away from advise and stuff for a few months things have been good no i lie better than that but this past week shes been moody again and then last night her cell bleeps a message at 11pm and tonight i said who the hell phoned that late and she said fkg simon.....i said oh!
then it festered i said what did he want at that time and she rants look at it if you want ,i said id shove the message up his ass and we hae massive row.
It ain't gonna be smooth all the time. Take a deep breath and show your tolerance and strength.
well looks like ive been a fool of agin...last night shes saying were doing good and she tells me tonight she doesnt love and she wants a divorce..................I NEED TO ARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
MAN IM TURMILED AND CONFUSED....THINK I WILL JUST CALL IT QUITS IVE HASD ENOGH NOW I THINK .CHRIST I DIDNT SEE IT COMING AGAIN...GONNA CHANGE MY NICK TO LOSER,IDIOT ,PRAT,FOOL OR MUG.
lady g....hand on heart i thought evereything was kool....................
loooking back over the last few weeks the sex had dried up and i knew albeit didnt admit it she was a bit off with me but has panz said it aint gonna be smooth all the time but i thought it was kool.
she says im lazy....i work every hour god sends or the boss lets me to put ££ in.If im on a normal day i get up at 6 take the mutt for his walk and am in work at 7am usually home at 4pm if normal...i take dog and make tea sorry to usa people dinner,then have a brew watch news or somethingand have a fool with my lads and tv or pc ....we watch diff programmes so i know quite a bit weve been in diff roooms ....she likes the soaps i like the sport...probs no different than millions worldwide....if not that routine mon i take youngest to soccer and fridays i coach wrestling....but i said if i do to much let me know.
so tonight she says im a prick a bully a lousy dad with my eldest....THAT HAS RIPPED ME BAD!!....
BUT I ALWAYS ASK IF SHE NEEDS A LIFT WITH ANYTHING .
she now says its all my fault i got her medecine and she doesnt love me........seriously i feel i could just drive my truck over a cliff tomm.im devastaed...again.....im a loser and hate myself for it.
Rough.
Keep in mind, it's not your fault, even though she says it is.
Yes, you have faults, but so does everyone else. Don't let her trick you into thinking you caused her problems.
I understand that you're hurt, but you've really gotta get a grip! If your wife is falling apart, that must be devistating enough for the kids, so they don't need you falling apart as well.
You need to be strong for them and prepare yourself and your kids for what will happen next.
Your kids don't need you thinking of yourself as a loser. They need a strong confidend dad who can handle whatever is put in front of him. If there's a divorce in the future, it will be extremely difficult for your kids and you need to put your feelings aside, pull yourself together and be there to help them through it.
If your wife has serious emotional illnesses, you need to prepare to fight for custody of your kids, so please, get yourself together so you can do what's best for your children.
Best wishes to you and your kids.
ukman....
I am truly sorry for what you are going through and it IS hard to not feel torn apart when words like your wife said are thrown at you. Please know, though...that although the words are coming from your wife's mouth, they are ALSO coming from a person who has some serious emotional and mental problems and this is NOT the same person you know as your wife. Does that make sense?
You cannot save her from herself is she does not want help. But you CAN save yourself, your sense of self worth, your good character and most importantly, your children by refusing to be torn apart by someone (ANYONE!) else's WORDS. You know yourself to be so much better than the picture she is painting of you. We can only be destroyed by others words by letting ourselves believe them.
Is your wife still taking her meds? Is she seeing a therapist? As much as I would love to be able to tell you that everything will be ok, I honestly cannot. Please, be good to yourself and your children. Go and see a counselor yourself. Look towards the future with your children. They still need you very, very much, especially with mom going through her emotional upheavals.
Please know that even across so many miles, our arms reach out to hug you and we will try to bring you comfort and support in any way we can. Stick around here, keep us updated, even if that is every day. If you find you need to get through life with just you and your kids, know we will be here through that too.
You deserve happiness.....
thanks for the kindness ...
its still as bad as ever but she has really left me feeling weird now....
about a month ago it was my birthday and we went out with my bro and sis in law and i had to drive as i was on call,anyhow we had a top night and the wife got hammered big time and she was playing with my balls inthe pub and dancing erotically it was hot hee hee......now we got home and fell from wall to wall i got her in bed and put my arm around her and she says dont think your going to sleep and we had oral and full on sex.....
for three weeks she never said anything then last night she says remember your birthday ?did we have sex ,i said yes and she rages because she was paraleytic i had no respect for her....
i feel bad now and feels like i raped or abused her ,i know i didnt but man i feel strange..
Why should you feel bad? You didn't rape her and if she's talking as if you did, it's her problem.
All I can say is that if I were in that situation, I would prepare myself for a divorce and be looking for the best interest of my children.
I've lived with 2 men with emotional problems in my past and I couldn't imagine living like that again.
It takes everything you have just trying to deal with a person who is so very unpredictable and it really does suck the life out of you.
Is she like this with your children as well, or is it just with you?
shes trying with the boys but to me it seems false but there you go.....
how can i stop feeling guilt over the "sex" incident?
