paulaj wrote:quote]
Fear of rejection is nonsense. Dating is like print advertising (man, that's a cold analogy, but bear with me...) You can only expect a 1-2 % return on your investment. So, the more people you hit on, the better your odds.
I agree with this, but there is one problem for us wimmins, there isn't a huge selection to pick from. Single woman out number single men. Out of the few men available, (I think I speak for most woman) we have to like the personality as well as be attracted to the outside for it to go anywhere beyond a few dates.
Trying to find the double combination has been a problem for me, I don't even bother trying anymore.[/quote]
Nah, that is a falsehood borne of woman-thought, basically the tendency to wrap yourself up in a world of enigma and second-guessing. Lie on the couch and tell me if any or all of these thoughts ever entered your mind while considering guys to date:
"He's hot, but stupid."
"He's hot, but unstable."
"He's hot, unstable and stupid, but something about his rugged danger attracts me."
"He's not so hot, but stable. He'll take care of me, but the bedroom will be a problem."
"He's not so hot, but funny. I hope his schlong is gigantic."
"He's not so hot, but rich. That turns me on, even if his schlong isn't gigantic."
"He's kinda cute, decent in bed, makes a good living, treats me well, do I want the middle class dream though?"
"I give up." (already been covered)
"Given the number of people in the world, if I did a little more work, things could work out, or am I just deluding myself?"
"Maybe I should just relax and let things happen, rather than be negative."
Meeting the 'right' person often involves a suspension of your preconceptions. That is what those 'few dates' are for. If you go with your first impression on instinct, you are indeed doomed. :wink: Okay, I'm off of the virtual shrink chair now.