Do you like the dirty talk?

XXX all the way, kicky.

If his ears aren't sweating, I've done something wrong.

Re: Do you like the dirty talk?
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Hmmm....spin cycle....

Bend over and pick up those dog toys.

Re: Do you like the dirty talk?


Thanks for the advice. I should retract my first statement, as I have been able to get nasty, but just not in any relationship in the past few years. I am pretty sure it has to do with my comfort level with those women, which, although I was screwing them, I never really felt like I had.

Wow, I just noticed that it is a dead heat between XXX and PG! Interesting scientific data...

I voted PG. I figure if she has time to talk I'm not doing something right.

I've talked about mundane things during sex before. I recommend it to everyone once in awile. No pressure, no romance, no foreplay, no preconceived ideas... not to bad really. I've done it while watching TV, too.

It sure is.

I think the phone sex advice is a good idea, are you going to try it?

I've done that. Like I said, it comes down to how confortable you feel. I haven't felt that degree of intimacy in a while, that's all.

Can I give you my honest opinion?

Go ahead, Paula.

I'll tell Kicky what you said.

Gustaravageaheffer

Where have you been all day?

Should I just tell Kicky the truth, bear in mind people hate the truth.

Kicky is a fairly sensitive person and sometimes he can't handle the truth.

I was walking by his house the other day and I heard all this screaming, so I peeked over the fence and saw Kicky cowering in the corner while his mother stood menacingly over him, waving a broom, and shouting... "You want the truth! You can't handle the truth!!"

So, tread carefully around kicky, Paula. Choose your words and deceptions wisely.

Yeah, tell me the truth Paula.

I dare you.

Some people have deeply ingrained patterns for sabotaging relationships. Some may instinctively terminate a relationship once it moves to a certain level of closeness and intimacy. When we start to feel close to someone we may zero in on one of the person's character defects, then make it so big it's all we can see. We may withdraw, or push the person away to create distance. We may start criticizing the other person, a behavior sure to create distance.
Sometimes, we choose people with particular faults so that when it comes time to be close we have an escape hatch.
All negative behaviors boil down to fear. A continuous lack of intimacy could be fear of being hurt, should a relationship become deeper/more involved emotionally, or it could be a fear of losing ourselves/autonomy.

I'm going to recommend a book, this is the BEST book I have found for dealing with these issue and MANY others. Everyone should read it just to keep in check. It's called 'If It Hurts It Isn't Love' by Chuck Spezzano, PhD.

Don't let the title throw you off. P.S. I'm reading it :-)

I'm not saying a word...not a peep out of me...

I'm not going to take advice from anyone named Chuck Spezzano, unless it has to do with preparing a pizza or burying a body.

Actual conversation:

"Hey, Louie, I knocked off the Grambini brothers last night, but I haven't figured out how to get rid of the bodies. Any ideas?"

"Awwww shaddup, you friggin' lunkhead. You know what to do.... talk to Chuck Spezzano!"

"Oh, yeah.... I forgot."

I'm reading it because I had a pattern of being with people who were emotionally unavailable. Very self defeating behavior on my part.

Gustafeedthecapybara

Will you please behave. I don't want to have to spank you from 1500 miles away.

Kicky, are you there? Are we still friends. Here is a big kiss.

SMOOOCHHH, ahhhh, that felt good. Thanks for being there :-)