To many feelings

I am new here and need some advice ~ I am having an affair with a married man and I am married as well ~ we started off hot and heavy meeting every two or so days then had a close call so we haven't seen each other on a week and a half ~ we continue to text daily (mon-fri) weekends are NC ~ I guess I just need help figuring this all out ~ we know each other through work never spoke to him before the flirting started and led to this affair ~ now we not only have sex and talk dirty to each other in between but text little odds and ends throughout day ~ you know about work~ weather ~ sometimes kids ~ so I think it is save to say we are kinda friends as well ~ this is where it comes into play why I am posting ~ when I texted to him t "well we are kinda friends right " and he responded ~ "yes we are like **** friends" I didn't get offended at first I thought well Ya and even responded back ~ how yes we were ~ but I have one friend that I confide in who told me that was so wrong ~ I then started to get upset ~ the most important thing is I am fully aware or our relationship ~ neither one of is plan on leaving or spouses and I do have feelings for him and I know he enjoys talking to me as well ~ so I guess just help from anyone to help me put this all in prospective ~ I hope I find someone on here that I can discuss my issues I have with this affair on insecurity and sometime expecting too much ~