@bobsal u1553115,
Part of the problem is developing around this idea that only whites can be racist. That there is no such thing as racism towards whites. This perpetuates the problem when a black accuses a white of racism who in fact isn't being racist. This drives the nonracism to turn into racism. I've experienced this first hand. I've seen lots of recent cases and the extreme left pushing this idea of all whites are privileged and have no right to discus or talk about race issues. Don't they are this very outlook is nothing other than racist?
You can't solve racism with racism. Telling a white person they are clueless when it comes to racial issues solved nothing and only continues deciding the people. Since you are white pull never understand so go a way is segregation socially.
To have a wound heal you can't keep picking at it. All you do is prolong the process. Some times the best solution is to deal with it on the individual level and not make a huge case out of it. Be strong in your own right and realize there are assigned in the world who are more than just racist.