O.K.; you may also be explaining why I do not talk about the Holocaust with Gentiles. However, I would not want to talk about the Holocaust with Gentiles, since they too believe that their ways are the "norm" and the Jews' ways are too different to be part of their reality. Very good. That's why Jews needed Israel after the Holocaust. Too many lost their taste, so to speak, to live in a Gentile culture. In other words, one has to assimilate into the domianant culture or live in one's own culture; otherwise, one might be confusing oneself, and one's children to have two identities. Society might just a zero sum game, if one is a realist? The only other choice might be to accept that there are dominant groups in any society, and one should find a niche to survive comfortably. Trying to make whites, or in my case Gentiles, feel guilty for injustices is really a waste of time, in my opinion. Realism is just the answer. And learning the art of contentment, without having to have others think positively of one's group, if one's self-esteem is healthy.
By the way, the two-thousand year sojourn of Jews in Europe, as pariahs, was a good training ground for learning how it is not such a bad idea to learn how to act deferent with authority.