@revelette2,
Our mother raised four children without a father. We were a welfare family. I understand being poor. We lived it.
All my siblings knew what they wanted to do after high school. I had no plans. My grades were close to failing, and graduated with C's and D's. I loafed around for a couple of years before enlisting into the USAF. They assigned me to work with nuclear weapons. This was the impetus and motivation I needed to continue my education after my discharge from the air force. It took me six years to earn my degree, because I had makeup classes in English and math.
I graduated with a degree in Accounting, and went to work for Florsheim Shoe Company as a Field Auditor in the seven western states. After 3.5 years, they promoted me to Audit Manager. After my seven years with Florsheim, we moved back to California, and have worked in management positions for the remainder of my working career, and retired early.
You may arrive at any conclusion you wish.