So how are YOU today?

Sorry to hear than news - neko...

RIP Nekochan

Here I am, Jane.
Thank you for your concern. I appreciate it.

Just letting you (& other kind folk who have emailed me. Thank you all, too.) that I'm OK, just taking some time out from A2K at the moment.

Apart from that, my mother died yesterday. Something like 3 hours after I returned from visiting her. She'd been in a great deal of pain.

That's about all I can say at the moment. I think I'm still rather shocked by the suddenness of her death.

Neko, I'm so sorry about Neckochan.
I've sent you a PM.

All the best to everyone for the new year.
Olga

I'm sorry for the loss of your mother, Ms O. Take all the time you need, but do come back to us. We miss you around here when you are gone.

Tnx for the kind message, MsO; photo is now deleted out of respect for Nekochan.
Miss Molly is now aware she's the cat of the house. No moping ; just as playful as ever despite the dark grey weather we're having.

Ditto what butrflynet posted.

Oh MsOlga, such sad news. My deepest sympathy for your loss and I wish you
lots of strength to get through this difficult time.

Oh, MsOlga, I'm sorry for your loss. Take care of yourself now..

My deepest sympathies on the loss of your mother, do take care of yourself in this difficult time, and do come back here, we miss you.

Very sorry to hear about your mother.
What a terrible shock!
You are in my thoughts.

Ms Olga, I am also very sorry to hear this news. I wish there was something more than offering sympathy that I could do for you.

Every now & then I turn on my computer & come across messages here, PMs & emails ...

Thank you for your kind thoughts here on this thread, Jane, Butrflynet, neko, osso, Danny, George & littlek.
Thank you to those of you who PM-ed me & have sent messages by email.

I'm very moved by your thoughts & really appreciate your making contact.

Losing a parent is not easy. It is made no easier when you've had what could be described as a troubled relationship with that parent. There is so much you're left to think about, lots of "what ifs" & "if only-s", as some of you might understand.

But anyway, thank you, all of you.

George, while catching up on this thread, I learned about your cousin's Illness. I'm so sorry to hear this. It must have been a very hard Christmas for you & your family this year.

Ms.

I've nothing useful to say for you just now, just long term stuff. In my own experience, I hate to say, it took a long time to get back to liking my mother, which I did, early on.
Years.
Forgive yourself.

Our situations may be different, but I think I understand.

I think that it's HARDER in a weird way when it's been a difficult relationship....when it's been good you just miss the hell out of them....when it's been difficult, there's often all this crap to process and it's damn hard.

Thinking of you very much.


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I am so sorry to hear that!!!

Did she just quietly die after having seemed fine? Or were you expecting this?

Either way, I am so sad for you.

Thanks all for the wellwishes...
Nekochan's passing was gradual. Bless her;right to the end she determinedly staggered to her litter by
herself; she did not soil her bunk.

But two days before, she was unable to stand or sit upright.
Thus, just lying on her side with her abdomen heaving with every breath: it was then we stopped her
twice-daily insulin shots.
I fed her with my right hand while having her cradled on my left forearm.
She took to her favorite salmon Fancy Feast- and water- held up to her in this manner. And the way
she took to water brought to mind the account of Christ's crucifixion, where he was quoted "I thirst".

She got a good thorough brushing while lying on top of a couch backrest.
Qtipped her ears: it was then I kew for sure this was her final attention. Not a purr throughout.

This, and Mitsu, have been sad learning experiences.

All the while she enoyed the warmth of a heated pad- a small electric blanket, if you may.





It's waterproof with a washable slipcover.

And again the Nomads extend our sincere heartfelt sympathy to Msolga - as in our PM.

Yes... I was thinking this too.

So sorry, msolga.

Hugs.

Oh.

Loving these dear little folk who have shorter lives than ours is so hard, sometimes, isn't it?

Kinda like looking after family members who need assistance.
In a word....yes: seeing your commitment to the end.

Jeez, I feel terrible for missing this. I'm so sorry for your loss, Olga.

So sorry, neko.

really sorry to have missed this until now, and very sorry for your loss