@Verlor,
Thanks Verlor,
In my old post, I mentioned we are two Financial independent adults with our own job. I don't use a penny of his money, we go the "Dutch" style in all our dates. I help take care of his mom, cook and clean for him and I'm not even his wife yet.
Financially, I am fully capable of ending this relationship since I don't depend on him for money. Emotionally, I don't know if I can because I have feelings for him.
People call me doormat, but I don't see anything wrong with doing all these stuff for the man I care about.
I never calculate anything I do for him, or expect anything in return from him. To us Chinese women, doing all that is just our "duty", we never calculate those things with our man.
And I don't mind help take care of his mom. In our Chinese culture, married a man is like married his whole family anyways.
Perhaps he is touch by all the things I do for him, but doesn't matter, what matter is he still with me.
Relationship have ups and downs, there no perfectly healthy relationships. I know to improve myself due to I am always on 'guard' of my emotions toward him. But I'm trying, and hope 2015 is a new start.
He does have his fair share of problems too, like hanging out with his street childhood friends who are into drugs. Well it not a surprise considering the environment of where we living at "the ghetto"
We are working hard to try to get out of here, since the rent here is CHEAP so it does help every month for us to save up money. We should be able to move out of here by the end of 2015 or early 2016 if the financial goes as plan.
Happy New Year to you and your family Verlor
