When my oldest nephew was four , he was angry because I pick up a juice box that he had forgotten about and put it in the refrigerator. He noticed and came running into the kitchen and just kept jumping and making grunt noises. Since I'm 36 years older than my nephew, I'm supposed to be an adult and help train my baby nephew to be well behaved. So, I patiently asked him what he wanted, he would only grunt and grab, I tried again 'what do you want, Brian, just tell me, please use words' he continued to grunt and grab. I told him that I couldn't understand him, and began to place it in the fridge. He kicked me hard in the ankle so hard it bruised me, so I grabbed his outstretched arm and gave him a quick smack on the thigh. He paused half a mo then began to let out a wail, my brother trotted in an addressed me sternly. "Is there a problem in here?" I snapped, NOT ANY MORE, he kicked me in the ankle and I smacked his butt.
Brother wasn't happy, but in consideration of the remarks on this thread I must admit, I under reacted. Since the 4 year old kicked me first, survival mode should have kicked in, I suppose I should have body slammed his 45 pound little body against the wall.
However, my correction stuck with him, he's 24 and treats me with the kind of respect you would expect from a nephew. He's not afraid of me, he doesn't beat woman, he learned a little bit about decent behaviour. I doled out a measured response, in other words, I'm a better man than Ray Rice.