@CoastalRat,
It might seem like I want everything about me, but that isn't the dynamic of our relationship. We have open communication and he constantly expresses to me what he needs from me as well and most importantly, I strive to meet his needs and he's told me many times he feels his needs are met. However, I mentioned how I feel like I give and give but don't even get the basics back. Like, support during hard times. He is finished with school and works full time now. He loves his job, has great relationships with his family and friends and is a happy person overall.
YES, he should cancel! Or perhaps, cut it short, or go later or perhaps make some other type of plan. That's the kind of support I give him in our relationship, but I'm not getting it back and it's what I need. I don't feel like he cares.
I already have a hectic schedule, I'm starting a FNP program, and he has much more down time than me, sees his friends a few times a week, and his family, and we don't see each other as we would even like. So, we do have separate lives apart. However, I expect the man who loves me, claims he wants me to marry him to BE THERE during times of hardship. It's easy to be there when times are easy. Anyone can do that and that's an easy test of character. The man I want to be married to for 60, 70 years, at the least should be able to put a camping trip aside and be there for me.
Oh, and if we went on the trip to get away from my "constant talk of what I need", then he isn't the man for me. Plain and simple. That isn't long suffering or enduring.
Am I wrong???