What say you?
I say I hate that particular phrase.
But, onto the actual topic ...
how do you
I don't think sex outside of a primary relationship is that big a deal. I think communication is what matters.
If sex outside of the marital/primary relationship is desired/required for some reason, I think it's important to talk to your partner about it.
Why is it okay to withold sex but the spouse who goes out to get their needs met is the only one in the wrong?
seems like you've carried half of an argument in here and are making a lot of assumptions about what people here might think about the issue