Sun 1 Dec, 2013 02:16 pm
I'd like to get an honest answer--Are construction workers easy people to converse with, congenial people? There's this guy, I'd say early-mid 20's who operates the construction bob cat. Met him/noticed him during gym class, we go out to the track for gym. Some people walk the track, while others are playing on the field. There's a new high school being constructed so obviously there's construction taking place surrounding the area and we can see them. I'm 18 turning 19 this year before I graduate. We started going out this past I'd say late September-early October is when I noticed him. Up until November this past week was our last class outside from what I am aware of. So this guy and myself have spotted each other, have made eye contact multiple times, smiles, I've gotten a beep from him as I was making consistent eye contact with him, broke it away by looking ahead or down, and he beeped resulting in a huge smile on my face, great confidence boost lol. We've made eye contact for a straight time that when I got close to the fence over by him he looked at me and mouthed something but I could not hear/nor decipher what he was saying. It's just so complicated when you're in the environment I was in where you have to be cautious. He's blasted a country music song, when I noticed I turned around towards him to see his cat in the vicinity he was at a bit further away yet I could hear the loud music, cracking up laughing. Unfortunately, my friend who would like to join me has failed many times to picking me up and driving down so we could go to the track. Tomorrow I am making a definite committed promise to myself to go run the track right after school(I am also a runner). Problem is I obsess..scrutinize over making the best first impression and another problem is I having anxiety, and it can get awful. I don't medicate myself, not extremely severe but it kills myself in these type of situations.
You need to cool it. A guy is FLIRTING with you. That's about all you know. (Did you actually MEET him - like introductions and TALK to each other?)
I'll bet you don't know him and don't know a thing about him (like, if he's married or not.)
I don't know if construction workers are easy to talk to in general, but this one is pretty bold to be flirting with a high school girl.
Haven't talked YET until I go down to the track and finally actually converse with him. A little at a time.. And high school girl, I'm not underage though so we're all good.
Equestrian asked: Are construction workers easy people to converse with... he looked at me and mouthed something but I could not hear/nor decipher what he was saying
He was probably saying something like "Wanna see my new cement mixer?"
I have not talked to him yet, but I will once I get myself down to the track as the prior date did not work out. I have a planned set date for next week.
Yes, high school girl, but I'm not underage so there's no unlawfulness that either of us would have to be concerned about.
There is more to be concerned about here than age and being legal.
Don't be in such a hurry, you've got a whole lifetime ahead of you.
What is there more to be concerned about? I'm sure I'm already aware along the lines of what you're going to say, but let me know.
Met him/noticed him during gym class, we go out to the track for gym.
you haven't met him
once you actually exchanged greetings that you can both hear, you'll have met him
Why? because from what I've read of your posts before, you get fixated on someone or some thing. And now you are zoned in. Doing this repeatedly can make you quite abused but not getting the love, the caring we all want.
I don't know how to help, will be interested in what longtime readers have to say to help her.
Oh, on construction workers - some bunch are fools, some of their bosses are asses, but many are very good at it, and if they're wise and lucky in combo, can do their own thing. Therein lies the trick.
I'm just wondering how old you actually are? I just read a previous thread of yours from the start of this year where you were 16 nearly 17, but now apparently you will be turning 19 this year.
You wrote that you tend to obsess and I think that is your problem. You seem to fixate on some-one and read way too much into every glance and casual hello.
I need to edit that, as I know crews who have worked together a long time, and in a way, the group is the greatness.
Correct. Disregard the "met him" part then. Have not met him yet.
In this situation I am not fixated to any extent. I was not asking you the question "why", that was for someone else.
Yeah you're going by contrary beliefs of construction workers I don't believe that ****.
If you saw my appearance, then you would have more a a solid understanding on this whole thing. Focus on one particular post, not my earlier ones..
I tend to obsess on making the best FIRST IMPRESSION that I can.... Nothing else. Read more carefully.
what **** don't you believe in?
I'd like to get an honest answer--Are construction workers easy people to converse with, congenial people?
Yes, all construction workers are exactly alike.
Exactly alike as what?? Congenial people?