Some of us don't need reminding, some probably do, but mostly I agree that equestrian needs to look at the whole enchilada by re-reading. There are anxious and obsessive patterns, and I am pretty sure most of us wish you well, equestrian, to work through all that. There are probably experienced people who could actually help.
I said once that you are smart, Equestrian, and will stick to that as meaning having a sharp brain, but as you already told us and most of us agree, you lag in social understanding. Our brains have many aspects. I'm wondering if novels would help.. not romance novels, that would be the wrong direction, but literature or ordinary novels that deal about relationships.
I say this as someone who learned about people at least partly from reading.