Think about this.
People said the sames things about Jews and the Jewish institutions they depended on in the time of your grandparents that you now say about Muslims and Hispanics, Even in this last post you are question their "loyalties" (which is a common excuse for antisemitism).
Either we accept this kind of hateful behavior in society, or we don't. Equality is a core value in American society. Muslims and Jews should be treated the same as anyone else.
I don't accept it towards anyone.
You never lived off of the east coast, in Protestant America? They are Americans, in my opinion, because they cannot conceive of being anything else. However, many ethnics (Catholics/Jews) require a "narrative" when they feel totally American; otherwise, they might refer to themselves in the Archie Bunker tradition: dem Jews, dem Italians, dem Irish, dem whatever.
So, you might just not understand me as a secular Jew, since you continue to make references to American Jews as a way to "win" your argument.
Meanwhile, you know quite a bit about my background, and you have remained a cypher. What does that tell me? Well, you may have nothing to hide, but you do attempt to use, to your advantage, the knowledge that you have about me to win your argument, while withholding any information about yourself. Since this is not an even playing field, in that respect, you may sell your love of mankind to someone else. You talk of even playing fields, but use your advantage when you can.